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writes: I work in a fast paced office and there is a lot of office politics there. I am a manager and there is a woman on my team who I know has gone behind my back to the company head and talked about my job performance. My reviews from the rest of my team were very good but for some reason this woman just seems to want to bring me down. My code of ethics is that if I have an issue with someone and their job performance I will go directly to them...it would never occur to me to go behind their back and I never have. I know that most senior managers do not like dealing with human relations issues at work but I feel that I need to tell my side of the story here.I know that there is also the possibilty that this woman goes into the office, spills the beans and no one listens but this is my career here. Any advice on dealing with this person?
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reader, stina  +, writes (30 August 2006):
 Hi Anon,Alright - normally I am like you and would speak directly to this person, but since she has already gotten someone else involved, I would try to set up a meeting with her and your HR Generalist (if you have one). If you don't have one, perhaps having a one on one discussion with her in the presence of a non-biased party would work (someone in the HR department preferably). Figure out what her deal is and make sure that she knows you see what's going on and that you will not tolerate it any further. Stay professional, keep a cool head and be firm and assertive. Hope this works out for you. (Work drama is so annoying, I've been there, too.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): Of course, you can also go directly to the problem - that woman who you think has a problem with you. Be clear, direct, and tactful. Keep direct threats to a bare minimal, and hint at them rather than attack her. Basically, give her a chance to 'escape', rather than corner her. [wink]
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): If the company's leaders are capable men and women, then they should well know and comprehend that words alone do not mean crap when it comes to action and result. In other words, your job performance should come from what you do for the company, and not what other employees say about you. Of course, not all corporate leaders are truly leaders. Only other thing you can consider doing is go to the human resources department or speak with your supervisor. Even then, that might cause a huge chain of events that may actually come in favor of gossip, rather than in favor of what you feel like you want to achieve.
I would like to say, "have faith in the company" but this really depends on how ethical your company runs.
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