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writes:i need some advice. i got with my bf in March 2006. we constantly got into agrguments and i have ended it with him loads of times...it always seemed to be 2 months on 2 months off. Then in June 2007 i we got our act together and we've not split up since.I love him alot but i just feel we are really incompatable. He talked about living together but i wanted to wait until we were really ready - especially with our up and down past - but he went out and bought a house anyway just for him. he's a real social butterfly and goes out all the time but i have a really stressful job so only feel like going out at the weekend. He spends his money freely, whereas i'm really careful. i also never feel good enough for him. he puts me down a lot. he's says i'm being over sensitive. i think he really does love me but when i think of our future together i see myself being really misreble. but when i think about breaking it off i chicken out. we've been together through thick and thin so how can i live without him in my life.I'm so confused...help!!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 I think you need to find your own self first and get established .Learn to stand on your own two feet. Be more confident and then come back .You need to venture out from the safety of your cocoon and see the outside world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): I totally understand how you feel. It's been a lot like that with my boyfriend. We would be together, but then end it for a day or two, but no longer than that. Then we'd be back together. But now, we've been great and everythings ok. I can totally relate to what you feel.
You obviously love each other a lot to go through all this together, so I don't think it's worth ending it. If you can't live without him - don't try to. But it goes the same for if you can't live WITH him. Just do what you think is gonna make you happy. I can see why you think that you may just be miserable in the future, but every couple has bad times. Just like everybody has 'down days'. You've got to put up with these times - talk to him lots, remind yourself how much you love him. Just because you spend money differently, or little things like that, it doesn't necessarily say anything about the relationship. You can't expect you two to be the same.
However, if these differences get in the way so much that they cause frequent arguements, then it's time to reconsider. Maybe a break would be helpful, then you'd realise how much you need each other, and take advantage of each other when you're together.
I hope this helps. Good luck :]
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