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writes:Okay well,My brother has this friend,and they have been best friends since I was like 8. Well,there was a 5 year difference. when I was 8,I HATED him with a deep passion,but as i grew older I realized,how attractive he was.He had always joked around and would say silly things like "when are we getting married" or "I love you,,say it back". Well,when he was 17 he had a baby,and had to get married to the girl. Oh I got so sad,but I guess I got over it. I didn't see him for over a year. Then when I was 13 and he was 18,he started coming around again. I looked older for my age,about 16 really. And so,I guess he finally found me attractive too? Anyway he would always ask me if I would kiss him,and I said yes,jokingly I thought. But one day when we were alone we kissed,it was quick because my mom was home,but it was so good. He came another day,and asked me to uh..you know? and I said I was scared,and that I didn't know how,so I said no. he told me that It was okay,and that he would wait forever for me. I'm afraid it has been 6 years now,and I haven't seen him since that day. I'm worried that I'm still very much in love with him. But I think it would be really awkward to you know,tell him. I really love him,and I really want to talk to him,and see him..but i don't know how to even look at him..I can't really manage to get the question out..it's hard to word it. So basically I guess I'm just asking for help?
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reader, irishpride8689 +, writes (28 March 2010):
I was 18 when I met my half brother's best friend of 10years. he is 6 years older than me. We got together within two weeks and just had our two year anniversary on the 25th without a fight yet.
Normally you will have similar personality traits to your siblings which in turn, attract their best friends to you. Of course things do change, but lust will probably still be there, after all, you are his "friend's little sister". best of luck!! Talk To Him!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): I actually went through a very similar experience when I was younger too with my brothers best friend. In my case, we had a relationship and kept it secret for a long time till his parents found out and made us separate and actually my name was damaged by them and I became the town whore, lol. His family actually wanted him to be with my old best friend, who was younger then me, but came from money and was raised with a more stable family, I was not good enough. Anyway, he later joined the military and I didn't really ever see him again. I held on for a LONG time too and I always wanted to know why. I finally realized that b/c we had no closure b/c we were forced to separate, and neither of us said it's over, or it can't work, or i don't have feelings for you anymore, I realized that's why I held on. So, I wanted an answer and I found him and I told him how I felt and it turned out he didn't feel the same anymore, and he actually acted like we never had anything at all. I was very hurt and confused, BUT I was then able to let him go. Maybe that's the same for you. Neither of you got a real fair chance, you just felt the feelings and the chemistry and then he disappeared and so there was no definite ending, so your left to wonder, the door is still open to the possibility that something is there. Anyway, I suggest you do the same thing I did. Find him and figure out who he is now, what was there and if there ever was anything there. You need to know or you will always wonder. He could be someone completely different that you would never go for, or he could be something special. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): You have to talk to him either way. But your 'thing' was quite brief. He's feelings may have changed since that day, you don't know. To me, he seems pretty forward, but there you go! Why don't you ask your brother, he should be in touch with him. He could bring up the subject of you or ask him about his family, you should understand that you will not be his main priority, but his child, so he probs wants to do best by him. If I'm being honest, you may just been infactuated and I'm not too sure it's love unless you have been with other guys for longer and you still feel more for the guy.
You're still young and I'm all for if he wants you, he will tell you, but talk to him. It's no good waiting to find out the answer when you can see him again. Go out for lunch and see if he blows your mind. He may just be good at flirting, but do you have a good connection? Can he keep you talking for hours?
Anyway, I really hope this helps. Let me know how you get on.
Best of luck.
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