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writes:After 4 years with my bf i asked if we will ever move together and he started mentioning its too expensive and he just wants to live at his mom's house. Does this mean im wasting my time in here? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2016): Im still living at my parents as Im saving to buy a house. Me and my boyf could go and rent now but then we would never have the money to own a house. Where I live rent is the same or more than a morgage. Why pay all my life for something that at any time the landlord could decide to boot me out, sell it etc. I want the stability of having my own house. My boyf agrees and we both have a house deposit account.We have been together three years,he stays with me a lot but as far as Im concerned if it takes more time to save for the house Im happy to wait. Do you have any future plans or not? I think at my age (late twenties) youve got to have something to work towards. If not then maybe this guy just isnt mature enough for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2016): The number of 18-30yo people in the USA living with their parents these days is enormous. This is not just a bunch of lazy virgin guys playing video games. It is downright normal now. The price of living & wages & housing is not what it was decades ago.
Should your BF's feelings bother you? I would say that depends on the other things about your BF. Is he trying to better himself in general? School, job, etc?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2016): I am guessing you have both saved enough deposit to buy a house together then? Or do you just want to go into rented and pay off somebodies else mortgage ?
No it does not mean you are wasting your time .
Maybe he feels he can not afford to be able to pay for the bills and to be able to treat you . That can sometimes effect a mans ego .
The main question is do you Love him ... if so why throw it away over something so little
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (15 June 2016):
 Does he work? Does he have ambitions? Are you both 22 - 24 or 25, nearly 26? Those would be important to show whether this is laziness or genuinely too expensive.
Honestly, most people in my area can't afford to move out from their parents houses until they're 28+, many not getting on the property ladder until they're 32+. Is it expensive in your state? Could you both afford to cover all of the bills together?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 June 2016):
 After four years of being with someone I would also be looking to move on to the next step. It sounds like your boyfriend is not ready to move out of home yet, he says it is expensive but if I had to guess I think his mum is paying all the bills and cooking all the meals, if that is the case then he is to lazy to stand on his own two feet and become a man. For me that would be a huge turn off. Talk to him again and tell him how important it is for the relationship to take the next step, be honest with how you feel.
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