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writes:I'm a teenager and i have dated around, but i can't get my mind off this one ex-boyfriend. its almost 4 years since the relationship and still think about him sometimes during the day but mostly at night. We were on and off for a year and the break ups were devastating. A year since the departure, we have seen each other for occasional hook-ups when i wasn't aware that he was seeing other girls at the time. And even when i knew, i still saw him anyway hoping it would reunite us. I would eventually feel horrible for my actions afterwards and haven't seen him for about half a year. But i cant seem to move on. His name would roll out of my mouth, every sad love song reminds me of him, and the future we talk about would play out in my head like movies. I will admit i miss him, he was my first love, but i don't think i can be in a relationship with him, but i still look forward to the day that it might still happen.My question is, so 4 years has past and I'm still hung over him and haven't let another guy get as close to me as he did since him. Is this unhealthy to the point i need to seek professional help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): I cant really allaborate on what q1605 has said, hes really hit the nail on the head. But my advice would be this;I went through exactly the same thing at your age with a guy, he really broke my heart and i was thinking along the lines of what your thinking right now none stop, and yes night time is the worst because thats when theres nothing else to occupy your brain. I was listening to all the songs me and him used to listen to and driving myself insane! Until one day i thought, hang on hes moved on and is living his life, why arent i? Because truth be told, he doesnt want you and the sooner you accept that the sooner you can move on. You dont wanna spend another year being used by him and getting your heart broken over and over. So just keep boys out of your life for now, you have plenty of years to worry about them! Just focus on other, more important areas of life. Boys, believe it or not, are not the be all and end all. Theres always another one waiting around the corner! Good luck!
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reader, Rihannax  +, writes (2 June 2009):
 Not at all, everyone feels this way over their first love, and i mean everyone.
ever heard that saying, "you'll never forget your 1st love", you feel this way cos he was ur 1st love, you've never loved til him, u wer happy with him and cnt seem to find the right person thats why u miss him.
it was 4 years ago thats a long time, directly when you meet someone else, you'll feel the same, just open up to the right person and u will feel the way u did with ur ex, even more so.
just wait and you meet the right person, try not thinking about him, try not to see him, because your on ur own ur more vulnerable to him, and thats why u always think about him.
hope this helps x
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