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writes:i am in a relationships for almost 4 years..we didn't see each other often.when we we're together and we're making love i didn't feel any orgasm since the day we made it until now. i made different strokes or styles but it doesn't worth.i'Neverm not shy to ask an advice so that i know what to do.please!
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (29 March 2009):
 Following is an expanded version of an opinion I expressed some weeks ago regarding female orgasm, cunnilingus and G-spot massage. Even before intercourse, one or a series of multiple orgasms would be probable if the procedures are applied lovingly and passionately. The result of orgasm is also possible without the cunnilingus (stimulation of clitoris by man's tongue and lips). The following is written in somewhat a clinical style so as not to seem too graphic.
"You should think of the G-spot as part of the clitoris and, in fact, all the sensitive parts of the vulva are really extensions of the clitoris. Think of it as a package or system. You can stimulate both primary areas, the clitoral bud and G-spot, at the same time. Actually, even more than that is possible.
The way it works with me is to get down between her legs after she has been aroused with adequate foreplay. The foreplay should include a substantial period of kissing, fondling, some body massage and embracing, all applied passionately over at least a half hour or more.
After the woman has been further aroused with gentle fingering (preferably using both middle and ring fingers), place a cushion or pillow under her bun to raise her slightly. Insert the two middle fingers of one hand and use the others, from above, to gently open her labia. The index finger and thumb work well, and the palm should be used to apply some firm pressure upon the mound above her clitoris (mons pubis).
The index and pinkie fingers of the inserted hand point upward and can be used to massage the sides of her vulva. From a comfortable position between her legs, then begin licking from her opening up to the clitoris, very soft and gentle at first, just barely with the tip of your tongue.
As she begins to respond, gradually increase tongue pressure with probing, and don't forget to use a variety of motions. The man should at first avoid direct contact to the clitoris with his tongue to build anticipation, but when her response warrants, begin licking around her clitoral bud and increasingly brush it with the tip of the tongue. Occasionally give her bud a gentle sucking and series of french kisses. Sucking may be applied more powerfully if she responds well.
The motion of the two fingers inserting her vagina should increase in intensity. The fingertips should detect a slight mound area about two to three inches upward inside her vagina, which is the G-spot. It often feels spongy or slightly rougher than the rest of her vaginal wall, which is usually smooth and slick with natural lubricant. The G-spot may be small as a dime or as large as a quarter.
Gently at first, rub the area side-to-side, and also apply circular motions, gradually increasing pressure with all motions, including the tongue on her clitoris. As she nears orgasm, her response will likely include thrusting her hips upward, heaving breathing, moaning, gasps - and she will probably feel quite flushed. Apply come-hither motions with the two fingers upon her G-spot, and lick her clitoris with vigor.
As she reaches orgasm, which may last up to 15 or more seconds, firmly hold the tongue flat against her clitoris without movement. The woman will probably push her vulva hard against the tongue. Her vagina inside will feel like a balloon inflating, almost pushing the fingers outward with rapid contractions.
The woman may shiver, thrust wildly, shake and squirm with delight while making any variety of sounds from squeals to screams. The tongue on the clitoris should hold firm until she finishes and then be removed. She may allow the man to cup one hand firmly over her vulva as she recovers. After a moment, the process may sometimes begin again to provide multiples. If properly applied, all this should result in one or more orgasms, and subsequent intercourse may provide yet another." DoubleM
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): Wow, you guys are exciting me!!!! LOL...
To the original poster...you obviously know what it feels like to have an orgasm and you know how to achieve it. The next step, as Starfish has described so eloquently is to teach him! Show him what you do to bring yourself to that point!
And Denny...Do you have an older brother??????
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): ok
i think i would teach him how to love me. So i would get him to sit behind you and then guide his hands as if they were your hands.
once he has mastered that, move on to a similar exercise with his mouth - get him to do move as you want him to.
I would concentrate on these moves first.
then when happy - move on to full sex. I would try and ride him - tie him up if necessary and play whilst riding...stop when you need to and control him.
note not all women can \ do orgasm whilst shagging. Some use vibrators to help.
Star.x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): 1.yes2,no3.no,because were doing everything,the same thing when i do it alone,but it doesnt work when we do it together4.yes5.yes,everytime i do it
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): ok... so some questions back:
1) can you orgasm on your own?
2) if the above is true - then can you guide his hands to do the same thing as yours.
3) have you told him what works for you? e.g. being bent over and taken roughly from behind or just gently teasing?
4) have you played with your self whilst shagging?
5) did you used to orgasm before?
Star.x.
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