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*assy31
writes:Hi I'm a 31 year old that has never had an orgasm. After a period of time of rubbing on my clitorus I have an awesome feeling that comes over my body but I'm never able 2 cum. (excuse my language.) Is there anyone that can give me any answers to this?
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reader, Sassy31 +, writes (2 August 2010):
Sassy31 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks 4 the response I'm so happy I found this site its so hard 2 talk face 2 face about this, and when I have people just didn't get it.As embarrassing as it is I never knew u could have an orgasm if you didn't cum.I have never been able to cum with a partner but always enjoyed the experience I have when I'm pleasing myself I hope I can enjoy it with him one day again thank so much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): That awesome feeling that comes over your body is probably a clitoral orgasm. It's not the same as one inspired through penetration, but it's still an orgasm.
Keep exploring your body. It's possible that you just haven't found the way that feels best for you. Many women don't start having orgasms with vaginal intercourse until their 30s, so you're not abnormal.
When you're having sex, try different positions to figure out what feels best. Don't make an orgasm your end-all, be-all goal, though, or else the anxiety you feel might prevent you from actually having one. Relax and enjoy your experiences. You'll eventually get there.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (1 August 2010):
 What do you think the feeling your having is? Every woman is different, not all scream out and have bodily fluid erruptions and the same goes for guys too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): The "awesome feeling" is an orgasm. I think you might be confusing an orgasm with female ejaculation, which some people can do and others cannot, from what I can tell from things that friends and other sources have said! So dont worry about it! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): As far as I know not all women are able to reach a orgasm in which they "cum" that good feeling you get is more than likely your orgasm, my girlfriend has never "came" but I can tell when she has an orgasm by when her body starts to involuntarily spasms which she cant control, every woman tho is capable of a "cumming orgasm" also known as "squirting" but it cannot always be achieved alone by clitoral stimulation, some women can only have a "cumming" orgasm through penetration on top of clitoral stimulation, so maybe try something along those lines? You would know if you are going to have a squirting orgasm simply by hitting the G-Spot if you feel the strong urge to urinate, just keep going with G-spot stimulation and don't be afraid to let that feeling go, then you will definitely have a "squirting" orgasm, it sounds to me like you do have normal orgasms simply by how you explain how you feel after clitoral stimulation, but if you truly want a "cumming" orgasm your probably going to need both G-spot stimulation and clitoral stimulation, this is were guys hands or simply a vibrator like the dolphin or rabbit would come in handy.
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