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writes:I am in a three year long relationship with a man who is 17 years older than me. I am in my mid twenties. We live together and I do all the house work (he helps with cleaning) and I do all the cooking. I run this man baths, I massage him, I shave him at times. I iron his shirts, make him breakfast, I do EVERYTHING for him. When its his birthday I go all out. I give him lots of presents, I make him cards, I cook him special things and I basically just shower him with love and affection all day long. He is a lovely man. He is respectful and caring however and most importantly faithful, but he treats me like a friend. Three years, no sex at all. I am still a virgin. I have tried to seduce him for over two years and bar oral sex nothing works. Secondly, he wont go away on holiday with me, He has gone with his exes, his mates, his dad but he wont with me. HE sends me gift vouchers for my birthday, and ecards. Not proper cards or anything like that. It finally got to a point where I said to him that I will be cutting down on what I do for him. At this point he said that he will cut down on the time he spends with me (which is a small amount anyway). So now, I am here with less time with him after having given him all my love, affection. I feel like I have to work extra hard to please this man. I have to be perfect in order for him to love me. He has had relationships before me and he was the one running around behind these women and with me he feels like he can sit back and take, take, take and I have to out do myself just to get scraps of his attention. Finally, a few months ago I left him. I told him why in a letter and I left. He didn't contact me or even call or say anything. He just accepted that we were broken up and that was that. It was me who asked for him back and he agreed. What do I do? What do I mean to him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): You are with the wrong guy....and there is a problem that you have that is keeping you there.Sorry, but that's the problem.This guy is really weird, the relationship you describe is bizarre, and you need to get professional help to figure out why you are in this for three years.Get help, get out now, and break fully clean and free.Frankly, you sound like a house maid that give oral sex periodically.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): Leave him and never go back. I too was with a man 17 years older. The biggest regret of my life. Leave now.. Selfish old man!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): You sound like an absolutely amazing young woman who deserves the sun, the moon and the stars. The whole monty.You would be some lucky gentleman's dream boat.I believe your boyfriend may be a weirdo... and he may be so troubled that you cannot (via the relationship) fix him. His behavior is extremely abnormal and cause for deep concern. It is hard to let someone go when we care about them, however you may need to do that very thing. Logically, you wouldn't keep pouring water into a bucket with a big hole in the bottom of it. For... as fast as you added water... it would empty.That's your fella.I can't figure out whether he's made you his mother... or whether he's got something else going on... Whatever the case may be... you sound like a terrific woman. Take this as a learning experience and find a man who can reciprocate...This man is nothing but weirdness and heartache, I'm afraid. Save yourself any further misery... you must separate yourself from him and move on. The longer you are with him ... the longer you are avoiding meeting the guy that it right for you... Because your Mr. Right is out there... probably in some creepy relationship right this very minute... wondering whether he should stay or go...Free yourself up to receive life's blessings... you deserve it.
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