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writes:My ex broke up with me about 3 months ago and I'm still not over it. The relationship only lasted about 10 months, but I know I really loved him and still do. 3 months seems like too long to be crying over a 10 month relationship. I see him almost everyday because of school, so I can't just avoid him. I don't want to avoid him though. He was a good friend and he is a good person. At the very least i still want to be friends. How can I get over him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): Very good answer from betty Boup. You probably keep crying over him becacuse you see him every day. Its like re-opening old wounds. To get over someone, you have to ignore them cold turkey. Cut off all contact and throw yourself into activites. Stay busy busy busy. Date others and just get rid of things he has given you. women bond to men after having sex, a hormone called oxytoin is released. This is the same hormone relased during breatfeeding with mothers and babies. And somehow this is released during sex with women. Men rarely release this and only do when they are happliy married/ in love in a long term relationship. read the book Getting to I do by Patricia Allen. it can take up to two years to get over an oxytocin bonding. But NO CONTACT is the only way to get over it.
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Don't worry about how long it takes to get over him, each person and each relationship is different. It just means you really loved him and put a lot of yourself into the relationship. It's not a bad thing that it's taking time to move on, it means you cared a lot. That's a good thing, it means you're a decent, loving person. It can't be easy as well, that you have to see him every day at school.
The best way to get over someone is to keep yourself busy. Throw yourself into activities that are fun and make you happy. Spend time with your friends and join a club that you've always fancied doing, such as art, yoga, dance, photography or hocky. Once you start having more fun, you'll be able to forget about him sooner, or miss him less.
Don't rush yourself to move on, I read once that it takes half the length of the relationship to fully get over it, so it could take you another 2 months. Just be kind to yourself and do things that make you happy. Remember that everything passes with time. If you're hurting try to tell yourself that things will be better one day.
Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): Go back and analyze logically why it was you broke up in the first place. Remove your emotion as that will help you find reason easier and when we find reason we become understanding and more content and therefore able to learn better from the past so that we can move on. Good luck :)
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