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writes:I went out on 3 great dates with this guy and it seemed like we were really hitting it off. He then went home for Thanksgiving, and I haven't heard from him in a week and half. I read in an advice column that one should just move on if a dude hasn't called in 2 weeks, but should I continue to hope since he did leave the state and probably just got back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI texted him on Friday just to see how his holiday went, and Have received no response. Thank you again for your advice; I'm fairly new at this dating game, despite my age, and have had a tough time so far. Hopefully it will get better...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all so much for your thoughtful responses. I think I am going to wait until the end of this week to try to contact him in any way...especially because I feel that it is "his turn" since I did ask him out for our third date after not hearing from him for four days. I don't know if that means anything, but I thought our third date went really well and he still seemed to like me.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (29 November 2011):
 Usually I would advise that if a person hasn't called you within 48-72 hours after the FIRST date (of course that's barring any personal reasons that prevented him from calling) then you should move on. But if you've been on three good dates, and you haven't heard from him. More than likely...1. He's just settling back home. Thanksgiving wasn't too long ago, and many people tend to travel away for the holidays. Now, I believe he still should've maintained some type of communication during this week and a half that you haven't spoken to him (text, email..etc.), but focusing on his family time could be one reason for his lack of communication with you. He also could be settling back home where he currently lives- and just didn't get around to calling you.2. Third date problems? If your third date was just as good as the previous two, I doubt there are any issues regarding his interest in you. BUT if his interest has faded, or he started to view you in a different way (as a friend, just someone to chat/hang out with every once in a while, etc), then he may be in no rush to call you. I would call/text him just to see what's going on. If you two talk, then listen to his tone of voice- and monitor his responses. Does he seem happy to be talking to you? Is he just giving you short yes, no, quick responses? Can you tell if his interest is still there?And if he's back in town, and you call/text and receive no response back within a few days, then yes, I believe you should move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2011): Probably a bit soon yet to be assuming he isnt interested. I know its hard waiting on a guy, but best bet is to wait another week or so. If no response, sms him and ask if he had a nice time away, play it casual and see what happens then.I wouldnt be worrying yet, let the poor boy get back home first!
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