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writes:I don't know whats going on in my head.Ive had 3 boyfriends in 4 months. and i dont know if i love my boyfriends or if i love the idea of having a boyfriend. not to mention people at school have been calling me a tramp because i jump from guy to guy. what should i do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, BellyDance  +, writes (12 December 2007):
 First off, love takes time. Don't feel bad if you didn't fully love each one of your past boyfriends. Because its not something that turns off and on like a light switch. You shouldn't be so quick to call someone your boyfriend. You should just be hanging out with your "crush" and getting to know each other. Especially since you are so young. There is no rush. So don't rush the "Boyfriend" title. And your peers will not be so quick to judge you.
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reader, missmel34  +, writes (12 December 2007):
 Your 13 to 15 age group. When I was that age I had no idea what love really was. It was more like crushes and infatuation.
Look, probably not a good idea to jump from one guy to the next at school, it will end up causing a bit of grief. But having said that, don't be so hung up on the love thing. Highschool bf's generally aren't more than infatuations, so have fun and don't take it too seriously. Try not to sleep around though, save sex for someone who really means alot to you, wait and let the relationship grow.
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (12 December 2007):
 Numbers are not important here. All it means is that patern is repeating itself.
Think of it as a lesson you must learn in life, until you learn from it, you keep repeating history.
Think of the reason why for break up.
Are you going out with the wrong type of guy or are you afraid of getting hurt so you break up before they do?
Perhaps you seek esteem from a boyfriend, which may be a void you need to fullfill yourself within.
Know that you are in control of your life, nobody is forcing you to take boyfriends.
It is your choice, so if you do not want to be treated like a tramp, change your current behavior.
Until you understand what is happening and why, take time out to be yourself. Try not to rush into another relationship until you feel if it right for you.
Good luck
Angel of Love
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