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writes: Hello i'm 24 years old, i'm a virgin and have neer had a girlfriend. I'm ugly losing my hair and have slighty crooked teeth, i'm in reasonable shape and very strong. I don't have much of a personailty. I don't want to be lonely anymore, there is a girl who walks past my house to see her aunty who lives by me, she is the girl of my dreams, I wish everyday that we could be together. I offered her a lift in my car the other day as she was walking and she said " i'm not going far" and declined my offer. I'm so fed up with my life, all i want is to be with her. my life has no meaining otherwise. What shall I do??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Ms. Tanya +, writes (4 September 2006):
 Okay, for starters I don't ever want to here the words "I'm ugly" come out of your mouth again, when we look in the mirror we automatically see the bad things and thats natural, however you NEED to see the good things as well or else you'll end up a ball of touchy nerves and nothing is worse then a good looking healthy young man who goes off at the tinyest thing. Now this girl that you like, she probably turned you down on the car trip because she honestly wasn't going far, and, she may have wanted exercise. Wemen worry about they're weight alot and alot of them given the choice would rather walk then get a ride from Johnny Depp (Okay maybe not quite). So does she have a regular time she walks by your house? Try going out to "check your mail" and ask her out to coffee. Quick tip, when you go out to "check your mail" You don't want to be trying to hard. No sent no tux, just a clean T-shirt and jeans a belt if your feeling fancy. Let me know if you run into any more problems.Best of luck to you,~Ms. Tanya
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2006): You really need to stop putting yourself down in this way. If you don't love yourself, how can you expect others to love you? I'm sure you're a terrific guy, you just need to let people see that. Who cares about your slightly crooked teeth?! If you have a genuine smile, that is what a woman is going to notice. Your smile, not your teeth. Confidence is huge when you want to meet new people. Hold your head high and smile, then people will notice you and want to get to know you for who you are. Have you tried joining any local hobby clubs or take dancing classes or something? These are great ways to meet people and also good confidence-boosters. I'm sure you're a thorough gentleman, with intelligence and a sense of humour. Talk to your lady friend a little more. She might not even know how you feel.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (2 September 2006):
 Hey,
everyone is beautiful on the inside. The more you put yourself down the worse you're going to feel so stop. Just cut it off.
Right, now that you've got over the fact that you're beautiful inside and out you need to focus on this girl. She's the girl of your dreams, the one. Are you sure? If the answer to this is yes, you're ready for the next step.
Maybe she just didn't get the message that you like her, maybe she thought you were just being nice by offering her a lift? Why don't you go round there with flowers or send her an anonymus card? Trust me when I say that a small gesture can mean a lot to us girls. So don't tell her how you feel just yet. Tell her you like her, ask her out. Just go for it! The only thing that's stoping you from making your dreams come true is yourself, putting yourself down. Go head up, smile, and go for that girl!!!!
Hope this helped,
Phoebe xxxxxx
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reader, bonym +, writes (2 September 2006):
 Stop this right now, dont say you are ugly, thats not true, you may think you are ugly, but I bet that is simply not true. You need to love yourself before you can love anyone else, so in order to get a girlfriend, you need to love yourself and have confidence in yourself and this will attract girls, because if you hate yourself you will carry yourself in a lowly way and this is unatractive. Of course there is meaning to your life, dont ever adopt that kind of thinking. Good luck and take care and start loving yourself first. xXx
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