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writes:SO im a 22 year old female virgin. and i also never had a boyfriend. lame i know. anywayz there is one guy that is interested in me but i feel like i can do better than him. messed up right? hes nice when hes sober, but when hes drunk hes annoying, he has a reputation of being a partyer/drinker. and hes like best friends with my best chick friend and theyre always hanging out soo thats kinda weird to me. and he tells her all about his past hook ups. i feel like hes really being himself around her, being cocky and a typical d-bag, but around me hes tries to be more nice and not so vulgar, i think he knows im a virgin. anywayz hes rude, like last night i heard he refers to one chick he banged as hairy butt hole! and hes banged a 50 year old lady before. honestly i guess im not attracted to man whores, it like puts me off to know that about him..BUT i know he really likes me, he tells me im beautiful and that he respects me, i have kissed him before 2 times (i was drunk) and i do like him but i feel like it will never work out between us and we should just be friends AND i have a gut feeling that im too good for him and i can do way better anyways. i know it may seem that im stuck up but really im not like that all the time just in this situation i feel like i can do better...which is messed up cause i view my situation being a 22 year old virgin as a negative thing and FINALLY a guy takes interest in me and i feel like i can do better! what the heck..lol. sooo i guess my question is should i just settle for this dude OR listen to my gut feeling and keep waiting for a real man that will respect me and my body and who will love me? Any thoughts/advice/answers on my situation is greatly appreciated!! and thanks for reading.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI doubt anyone is following up on my situation but I decided to give an update! Sooo despite the advice u kind people gave me I reluctantly gave this guy a chance bc he was real sweet to me & helped me out when I had a bad car accident by giving me rides. Anywayz we started dating & we r still currently dating its going to be almost a year soon. We did have sex after about 4 months into the relationship (I waited till he said he loved me & when I thought I felt the same). He's been real good to me & is really patient w/ me. Hes been faithful this whole time (Im pretty sure lol) sometimes I worry about him cuz he used to be a manwhore but he's given me no reason to doubt him. He stop doing drugs, he doesn't drink/party as much, & he's improved his life by being more focused on school. Maybe I'm the reason for his change...idk. Anywayz at times I do regret giving him my virginity bc I feel like I did it to soon & now I'm stuck in something serious; I'll probably never experience dating other people bc I feel that he wants me in his life for a long time... However he's a really good boyfriend & he's kind to me & puts my needs first before his. I'm currently happy with him & love him. Just thought I'd share that w/ anyone who was curious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): "ok thanks everyone for answering and giving me some advice! i will not settle for this guy, i am only going to be his friend nothing more"
Yay!!!!
I wouldn't even be his friend, he is horrible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok thanks everyone for answering and giving me some advice! i will not settle for this guy, i am only going to be his friend nothing more
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reader, lakers_lover09 +, writes (27 February 2011):
He's gross. Find a guy like me...or someone you know is worth it lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): Listen to your gut- you can do much better than this loser. Stop hanging around with him and find someone who is a better person and who is worthy of you, he isn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): Having standards does not make you stuck up at all -- it makes you respectable because it means your love has to be earned. It seems to me that he's just an excellent player who knows that you won't be attracted to the cruder side of his personality. That doesn't mean he doesn't like you, but it may mean you are only one of several options for him. Guys like that are thrilling to be around and flirt with, but I wouldn't let it go beyond that. If it does, my guess is it will be very easy to fall for him, especially once the relationship gets physical. At that point, it becomes very difficult to extract yourself from the situation because you'll keep trying to find redeeming qualities in him -- trust me, you're better off saving yourself the heartache and finding a guy who obviously cares about you. Hope that helps!
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reader, natasia  +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Obviously listen to your gut feeling and wait for someone who is a pure as you. He sounds pretty awful. Don't go anywhere near him (or, rather, don't let him anywhere near you). You will only bond with him and then regret it and then it will be real painful to unbond. Don't bond in the first place. Be as careful as you can be about where you place your heart. It is a precious thing.
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