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writes:I'm a 20 year old female virgin and I never had a serious relationship/boyfriend or even had a real kiss. I'm smart, have a job, and been told that im beautiful by many admires but i have never really been on that relationship rollarcoaster. people think im naive but i do know about sex somewhat for a virgin...i've watched porn before and had orgasms even though that souds pathetic but just to let you know im not all that clueless. I just never really took that next step. Maybe it's my confidance but i can't seem to know how to be comfortable with a guy. Sometimes they expect me to know what im doing and be totally comfortable with it. I know guys have needs but i don't like to feel pressured about anything and sometimes its so hard to even work up the courage to give a guy a hug that im crushing over. when i was growing up i never been close to my father or brothers so its hard to show affection to males and its weird sometimes. Im not a lesbo. I mean i want to be intimate with a cute guy and not have to go all the way but just enough to feel what its like being kissed and hugged and what all those love songs are made out of?
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reader, Jordan1990 +, writes (24 December 2010):
You should be proud of who you are. Being a virgin at 20 is a rare and amazing thing. I'm one myself. Those guys who have" needs", trust me, you don't want to have anything to do with them. A relationship isn't about sex. Its about the love you share for each other. I know how you feel about the whole not being comfortable with the other sex. Its just part of being shy. You seem like you want a real relationship. So my advice, wait for a guy who doesn't want to have sex with you till after marrige. Sex is a special thing that should only be shared with your spouse. Eventually you'll find a guy who likes you for who you are, not what you'll do. Just have patience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): ive had many orgasms and im still a virgin but im 17.
im the same as you in way because i have difficulties showing affection to males cos i wasnt brought up around males ,women brought me up.
i have however snoged and huged and gone down on some boys but i wont go ahead with anything more..
its weird.
but they say you'll now when its right.
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reader, _Tyler +, writes (29 May 2009):
Don't try to rush things along, keep things going at the pace you need to go. I agree with Klara, being open an honest. I personally like it when girls are open with me and talk to me .
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