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writes:Hi all, my first love has come back to haunt me again.It's coming up to the time of year where me and her first met face to face after talking over the internet and falling in love. We met in her hometown on the 10th of July, 5 years ago this year. Our relationship lasted for 2 years, until she decided that because she was going to university, we wouldn't have time to see eachother and so there was no point staying together. I was heartbroken.Last night I had a dream about her. I don't dream about her very much anymore which is a good sign. In my dreams we are usually still a couple, but in this recent dream we were friends. I came out of a 8 1/2 month relationship a month ago and we ended on great terms and are still friends today. So, I think that's what this dream was about - the possibility of becoming friends with my first love, who I haven't spoken to in over 2 years!The problem is that, though I don't think of her very much these days and I accept that our relationship was doomed because of the long distance as well as university commitments (this took me a VERY long time to accept, but I'm there now)... It still hurts me when I think of her. She was a very beautiful girl and the most important person in the world to me for a long time. I know that she is in a relationship with some guy now and they've been together for a very long time... It scares me to death that she will go on to marry him and have a perfect life. Why is that?? Me and her will never be together/see eachother/speak to one another again, so why does it bother me? It's as if I don't want her to have a perfect life with someone. That's probably because I wanted that someone to be me...Anyway, we broke up in June 2007. It's 3 years later. I have been without her LONGER than I have been with her, yet, because of how I'm feeling, I don't feel as though I have fully moved on from my first love. What do you think? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): Friendship will only be harder imagine watching the girl you love becoming involved in another relationship and forgetting about her one with you. She was obviously not willing to make any sort of commitment with you, going to different universities doesn't mean anything the distance is manageable. I am in a Transatlantic relationship and here i am in America and about to get married, easiest decision of my live. My advice for you, go out, go clubbing with friends have fun! don't focus on girls for a while, stay healthy work out. Gain some of that self esteem back by helping others and feel good about yourself. Set goals like; I want to have this car, I want to work this hard for my boss, keep yourself busy and move on.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (1 July 2010):
Andy00 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks, but that's not advice...
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