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writes:Hi,My boyfriend and i have been together now for two months. He treats me really nice and i feel very lucky to have him in my life.Tee problem is that he has said he really likes me and has feelings for me and misses me when i am away. but he has never said he loves me.It bothers me alot. I asked him why and he said that love grows and is scared of opening up too much just yet. Should i be worried? Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): This isn't something to worry about. Your boyfriend is correct, love does grow, he will say it when he feels it, don't worry. Remember, it has only been 2 months, there are people out there that fall in love very fast and others who need time to develop this feeling.
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reader, Fiona xxx  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 I know myself that you don't actually love somebody until 6-8 months. Yeah you can be smitten, really fancy, be fond of etc, but love is different.
I think too many people use the words "I love you" too easily, and often as a way of getting the girl to have sex too soon. I was always too level-headed to believe it.
So perhaps he's the same and you should tell by his actions and attitude on an everyday basis how the relationship is progressing, if you are heading in the direction of you both loving each-other.
I agree he's probably saving the words for when he actually means it, and won't use it too soon.
Sometimes people can come across too intense if they say they love you too soon as well.
So perhaps it's a good sign.
Fiona.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): When some guys knows the girl wants to hear the words he gets a lot paranoid.I suggest you don't even talk about it.Be cool.When he sees you are not needy or clingy,you might get to hear the words.All the best.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (17 December 2008):
 Just relax and enjoy the relationship, they can be so exhilarating when they are just beginning, and two months is just the very beginning. He'll say it when he's ready and truly means it, you wouldn't want it any other way, would you?
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reader, sexseahot +, writes (17 December 2008):
 You shouldn't worry at all. 2 months really isn't the longest time and sometimes people are not ready yet only that far into a relationship to say "I Love You". It took me and my boyfriend about 4 or 5 months to say that. It just depends on when someone is ready to take that step.
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reader, heartbroken . x +, writes (17 December 2008):
you shouldnt worrie that much , he just wants to say it and REALLY mean it , so he doesnt hurt you
nothing to worrie about :)
trust me , hes only doin it coz he cares
hope it helps
heartbroken. x
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