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writes:if a girl puts out on a first date, would it ever work into proper dating or just sex? x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): Usually it is a bad things...but one of my sexual encounters on a first date turned into a 3 year relationship. It isn't always bad, and trust your gut feeling!
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reader, OhGetReal  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 Here's a good book for you to read "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man" by Carvey....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): I think many really good relationships can start with a strong sexual spark. Whether this means sex on teh first date depends very strongly on the people, the situation and the intent. I personally like there to be on the first date an INDICATION that both of us are into the idea of sex. But frankly, I am more in tune than most guys to a woman's emotions and aura (typical Aquarian) so I am not a good first night kinda guy. I find that most guys who are dating are not like me...getting into bed quickly, for them, is a goal. For me, getting to know how into me she is is more of my goal...but sometimes without actually going there right away. But I tend to not have partners for the sole purpose of having sex...just not my style. If I want that, I can masturbate or call up a FB.As for how I percieve women who do it...well, I don't automatically think of them as slutty. My thought process might be something like..."wow...she really wants me. I wonder if she's like this with all guys or if i'm special. I wonder if this will turn into anything, or if it will be a one nighter". You see...I need to know how I fit in. It creates too many questions and suspicions that can all be answered in a first date where there is no hardcore sex. Then if you do spend th efirst date getting to know a few of these things, the second or third date can be a question free, conscience free sexual encounter that, to me, is 10 times better. I know...I think too much. But that is just my style.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): I had sex with my current boyfriend on the first date. We're 7 months in now and everything is good. Though he did hold me very close and tight when I told him the other night that apart from him, I've never had sex with a guy I hadn't dated for at least 6 months first. I suspect he was incredibly happy about that and he's a much more liberated guy than the average. So to answer your question, I think it can but it's very rare
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (27 August 2010):
 I always have sex on the first date because I'm not looking for relationships. If I was looking for one I'm pretty sure I'd make him wait.
Does that make sense?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): I agree with the other aunts, if it's a relationship that you want then you do not have sex on the first date. A woman will only have sex with a man she is interested in dating (unless it's a drunken mistake) but a guy doesn't have that requirement. If he has sex with you right away, he has to run because he innately knows that you want a relationship. Men don't know if they want to be in a relationship with you until they get to know you, so by not having sex, it gives him an opportunity to go out with you with no obligations. Does that make sense?
This will save you from getting your feelings hurt also. There are always going to be guys trying to get laid and this way, when you don't get a call back, you don't question yourself...didn't he like my body? Did I talk too mucch, was it something I said, do I snore, or did I fart in my sleep???
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (27 August 2010):
 Any girl who is looking for more past the first date holds out, until she's certain this could turn into a relationship. The girl who has sex on the first date, proves she's impatient, can't wait, and in the rarity that it leads to a relationship it's based around sex. And that sex will get old quick leading to a break-up or cheating. Also, the chase is over for the guy, he's doesn't have to woo her to take off her panties because she dropped them pretty quick. I think it also makes the girl look cheap if she can't contain herself on the first date. It's more ladylike to hold out, gives the girl mystery and the men a good chase.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): well i think no one should have sex on the first date because
it can be bad for the relation you should get to know your special person better but everybody is different so maybe
your relationship will work out
hoped this helped
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