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writes:Me and my ex will have our first conversation tonight after being broken up for a month and a half and over 3 weeks of no contact but 1 week since she messaged me. I'm trying to use these last 3 hours I have left to gather as much info and insight as I can to make myself less nervous and more comfortable and to make sure I do the right thing. I already put off talking for a week and she's really eager and impatient to talk to me.I know I'm going to keep it short, half hour max and let her direct the conversations while just catching up on things going on in my life and not ask questions.My question is what if she asks if I still love her? I know I do but that would be a really uncomfortable question for me to answer. She might just want reassurance but idk. Also what if she asks if I did get rid of her things. When we broke up she nagged me to get rid of her stuff which I said I would but what I really did was place them in a lockbox and had my friend keep the key.How can I proceed in this conversation with her in ways I can get her to come back for more? Any tips and advice for how to handle communicating with my ex for the first time since the breakup would be very well appreciated.Thanks.Also remember she's the one who initiated contact with me and is eager to talk with me. She also asked me if not talking has been bugging me since it's been bugging her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2010): Hey this is the guy who posted this question. I'm replying to youwish. Well she was the one to break it off with me and yes I do love her and want to get back with her so I'm not going to just move on. However thing's aren't looking good since I took up too much time and now she's not here
=[ we were supposed to talk on IM. I feel now like she probably things I'm uninterested and playing games with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2010): if she wanted to talk to you eagerly then she still thinks about you and still wonders what your doing. lol..I bet if you tell her that you get her to say she loves you still then you can tell her how you feel too. just ask her why she wanted to talk to you and how she is doing without you. an mostly questions that evolve from her not being with you. im sure you will figuire it out one way or another i hoped i helped in some way .
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reader, YouWish +, writes (24 April 2010):
 Sounds like she's not over you. If you're over her, I wouldn't have these conversations with her and stuff. Just put a period on it and move on.
If she asks you if you still love her, answer her gently, but honestly. If you no longer love her, don't give her false hope. Just say "I really loved the time I had with you, but truthfully, I'm looking forward." If she wants clarification, just tell her "I'm really sorry, but my feelings for you have changed."
It's interesting that you didn't get rid of her stuff, yet put it in a lockbox. Are you still thinking about the relationship too and thinking about going back with her?
Either way, good luck!
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