A
female
age
26-29,
*rsVigil12810
writes:i need help . i am 15 years old and there is a big chance that i may be pregnant . i come from a very strict household that doesn't even believe in sex before marriage we. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 7 months and i know we aren't breaking up ... ever . he proposed to me but he feels bad because he doesn't have a ring . he wants to get me one before i go back to school in the fall , sophomore year . my boyfriend and i promised my mom that we would come and talk to her to put me on some type of birth control . i first lost my virginity in april when i came back from wisconsin with my mom . i went to his house and yes , we were protected . recently , in the month of may , we decided to just have unprotected sex and not think twice about it . last month , in may , was my last period that i can remember . my period is irregular so sometimes it comes on the 20th and sometimes it comes on the 30th. i took three pregnancy tests but they all came out negative. i have all the symptoms : my boobs hurt , i get weird cravings all of a sudden , im tired even after falling asleep 4 times in one day , im emotional , i get cramps in my stomach , in my lower abs by my pelvic area , my back is killing me more and more everyday , my nose runs at night and im not even sick . i don't know if i should tell my strict mother who would be more than disappointed in me and my boyfriend who she loves. i think she would give me one of two options ; either i get an abortion (which i dont believe in) or shes gunna put me out . and because im 15 , im the baby girl of the family and they expect so much more of me . should i wait to tell me mom or just let her figure it out when i start showing ? what should i do as far as balancing school and my baby ? what should i do about money ? my boyfriend wants me to stay with him but i dont want to be another 2 people added on to a family of 6 . please help . im in a desprate state . p.s. i live in chicago , i need to know of a clinic that doesnt need a parent with them to come in and get an appointment and an ultrasound. please help . please help . please help . por favor .
View related questions:
abortion, be pregnant, boobs, lost my virginity, might be pregnant, money, period, pregnancy test, unprotected sex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2011): I don't think you're pregnant because those are not symptoms that you have in the first month of pregnancy. But, I knew a girl who took 3 pregnancy tests that come out negative and she actually was pregnant. You need to go to a Planned Parenthood. They will give you an ultra sound and a pregnancy test. If you are not pregnant they will help you get on BC and educate you on responsible sex. If you are they will help you through whatever decision you want to make. They have lots of counselors and they will check you out and make sure everything is alright with you and baby. Then after that you need to tell your mom. Don't wait until a baby comes popping out on the kitchen floor. If you don't want an abortion, but are not ready for a baby then look into some adoptive parents. There are many couples who would love to have a baby and can't. It would be a wonderful gift to someone who has everything a child needs. But before anything find a Planned Parenthood and get a pregnancy test. I googled "Planned Parenthood in Chicago" and three places came up. So just put that into google and you should be able to find one. Good luck.
A
female
reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 June 2011):
 I don't think you are pregnant either. You took the tests and they were negative. Your symptoms could be from your irregular period.
When you go to the doctors, even if you have a parent with you, aren't you allowed to talk in private with the doctor? But as far as I am aware, they only do another pregnancy test, and as you've already taken pregnancy tests and they were negative I think you should relax.
I think you want to be pregnant. Which is why you had unprotected sex, you hoped to be pregnant. Then now, even if the tests show you you aren't, you don't want to accept that. Maybe you should try to be happy instead that you aren't pregnant?
I hope you do realize just how difficult you'd make both yours and your boyfriends lives if you were pregnant. You shouldn't be having unprotected sex unless you want to make a baby, and as things are, and you've pointed out yourself, now isn't exactly the time to make babies.
Tell your mom you want to talk to your doctor about contraceptives and sex, or any other excuse you can come up with, and then get a doctors appointment. Then ask if you can speak with the doctor in private.
There is also a thing called the emergency contraceptive. It's to be taken as soon as possible after unprotected sex, and needs to be taken within 72 hours. It is a pill you take. However, this pill doesn't do anything if you're already pregnant, and it is not to be used as a contraceptive. It is just for emergencies, like when you end up having unprotected sex. Some times we're caught up in the passion of the moment and unprotected sex seems like a thrill... only afterwards do we realize that if we wound up pregnant it wouldn't be so much fun. Which is why that emergency contraceptive comes in handy, and can be bought at any pharmacy. Your doctor should also have a few in stock if you manage to rush it there.
There are no real symptoms of pregnancy. Morning sickness is typical of a pregnancy, for example, but it is also typical of a lot of other things. Some can walk through an entire pregnancy with no symptoms at all, and not even realizing they are pregnant until the birth itself. So no, there are no real universal symptoms, and all you can and should trust is the pregnancy test.
...............................
A
female
reader, dmartin89  +, writes (27 June 2011):
 If the tests are coming out negative then its 99% that you aren't pregnant. Also the symptoms you are describing are not ones you would get in early pregnancy. However, they are signs of normal teenage hormones.
Keep doing tests, if a positive one doesn't come back within two weeks, then you really aren't pregnant. And I bet that your period will come any day now.
I'm 21 and i remember that when I was your age, my period would come regularly every month for months then I wouldn't get one for a few months then I would get one every 2 weeks. Your body is complicated at your age.
And for petes sake stop having sex, you're far too young. Do you think your family would be impressed if they found out? He could end up in prison for statutory rape if anyone reports him. If you value your boyfriend and your relationship, then you will wait until you are of age!
...............................
|
