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writes: Im kinda young (14), but i think i have found "the one". we went out for 4 months, and we were really happy together. Everyday we would talk in some way.but the last day of school she broke up with me because she is going through some tough times and she needed to get her stuff together. The past week i had given her a bracelet, but she made no attempt to give it back, and she told me she wanted to keep my sweatshirts because they smeeled like me. She had left her jacket at my house, and she said she wanted me to keep it. so i was ok for about a day. but then the next day i came crashing down. and for about two days i was in total depression. i said alot of things that made the tension worse. not bad things, just things like i miss her alot. She had to leave to california for the summer, and a few days before she left, she started liking one of my friends, whos girlfriend happened to have dumped him the same week we broke up. and my friend was trying to back down because he knows how much i love her, but i told him go ahead because i didnt want to ruin her chances with someone that i knew was a good man. but through the past 3 weeks, they have gotten more into the relationship. my "friend" no longer talks to me, and he is juggling between my ex, and his ex. He isnt going out with either yet, but off and on he is toying with their heartstrings. ive decided to wait awhile and see what happens because i cant do anything, and football starts soon, so ill have something to keep me distracted.what do you think i should do?
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (8 July 2006):
 There is no such thing as 'the one'...there are many...it would be a very difficult world if there was only one person out there for you and you had to find just that person - the human race might be in mortal danger if we were all looking for 'the one'. There are lots of girls out there who have similar personalities, looks etc to your ex and they will bring you happiness through their rather less complicated approach to life, relationships etc. There is absolutely nothing you can personally do to change the situation you find yourself in with this girl so distract yourself with footie or anything else. You have learned some valuable life lessons for the future - your 'friend' isn't a real friend if he is not speaking to you and juggling these girls, and you seem like a nice boy so don't change as there is someone out there who will adore you for just who you are!
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (8 July 2006):
 Hey,
why don't you talk to your ex and say that you really don't feel she should be going through these tough times alone? Why don't you say that even though she's in California you can work things through together and she doesn't have to deal with anything alone? Basically, tell her how you feel - speak from your heart. If she really is "The One" then things should work out and I really hope they do!
I Also Really hope this helped - if you ever want to talk, I'm here, Me
Phoebe
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