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writes:Hi,I last wrote moaning that my boyfriend ignored my birthday. Here I am again. We've been together 12 years and have a son.I am down 'cos Christmas is coming and I know it'll be another disappointment, not the fact that I wont get any presents, but it has become a non entity. As a child I loved Christmas , sitting at the table pulling crackers etc. But with him it's an up hill struggle, we may manage to actually sit together to eat, but there is no fun or togetherness.And I am solely responsible to make Christmas happen for our boy.I just want him to have happy memories like I did, but I know he wont!I even took our son on a hot holiday last year just us two, best hol I've had in years! We argue alot about everything and there is no affection from him ( I try, but it's hard hugging a statue). I am jealous of others relationships, are they all having a much better time than us?I do still love him and he says he loves me ( after I've asked him, of course).Am I wasting my life, I am 42, he is 43?Sorry I went on a bit, but that's just the tip of the ice berg. Thank you for reading this.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (14 September 2010):
 So you guys are more or less, longtime boyfriend/girlfriend? If this is the case, then I think it is a little to late in the game to be going "dutch". Tell him you don't have the money to spare, and ask him if you could pay him back. If the $ really is a big deal to him.
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reader, old bag +, writes (14 September 2010):
old bag is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Tennisstar 88,
Yes I know you're right, I don't want to walk away, though I have a life to live too. By the way we aren't married, that's another thorn in my side!!
Will try, though a day out this weekend where we could all go as a family is now off the cards for me as he's just informed me I have to buy my own £50 ticket!I don't have a spare £50 at the end of the week, so I guess I will be staying at home!Is he being unresonable?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (7 September 2010):
You know it sounds like there is other problems in your marriage other than you not receiving presents on your birthday or on holidays. 12 years is a lot to invest in marriage, plus you have a son...now to me marriage is sacred you took those vows seriously and for a reason none other than you love the man in front of you he is truly your soulmate. Now, I suggest you find that love for your husband in you and if you have to dig it out of him then give marriage counseling a whirl. It's much easier to give up rather than work on what you have. Find out what the real problem is here..talk to your husband!
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