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writes:Why does a man want to have anal sex with his wife? Why that kind of sex?
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reader, artian  +, writes (10 March 2009):
 Anal sex can seem a dirty act but is fine if your personal hygiene is up to scratch and you have a clean before and after just like vaginal sex.
Why some people like it so much (women) is because the nerve endings in the anus are directly connected to the clitoral muscle and the angle of penetration stimulates the same areas as vaginal sex. so. there is an added bonus.
It, is important to do it correctly with massage to avoid pain. so, if done incorrectly it is obvious why some are put off.
If the social stigma does not put you off then it can be a very enjoyable experience for both involved.
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reader, artian +, writes (10 March 2009):
Sex is about exploring is it not?
This should be about pleasure and not goal orientated.
Perhaps he wants to find out if he likes it or he knows he likes it but has not done it with that person.
So, perhaps he wants to find out if his wife will like it or if they both like it.
If your are going to do this take your time, take is slow, and relax the anal muscles with massage. You will not need any force on entry if the muscles are relaxed properly. The woman should be in control on entering to avoid pain. As sex is about enjoying you want to get it right.
ps, use lots of lube.
Enjoy and take it easy.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (10 March 2009):
 I think StudentofLife has it down. It's something a little kinky and "dirty". For others it's about dominance.
If done right it can be pleasurable for both parties. If you have no desire to try it then I see nothing wrong in that.
Not all men like it or want it. Some men think it will make them gay.. others that it's gross.. Just like most things sexual, some like vanilla some like chocolate..
Just remember not all fantasies have to be lived out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): Non of my BF's liked anal sex, so not all men like it !!!! Its overrated! You should never do what you don't want to do and don't let anyone push you into it!And no! Its not a pleasure, if you have never done it before, it hurts like hell, and you will bleed like crazy not to mantion you will not be able to go to the bathroom for days and than have painfull experiences !!!! Guys are pigs and don't care about the woman .. its always only about their pleasure
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): PORN......it teaches men that all women want it and fuels their desire for it. No, not all men want it, some still see it for what it is and it is not a natural desire it is a learned response. Sorry you found out so late in the game but I wish more women would research the subject instead of just giving in to their men's wishes. Anal sex can cause lasting damage to this very fragile area of the human body that was NOT designed to accomodate a man's penis.
Funny how alot of the same men that want it from their woman find it to be a repulsive and filthy act performed between two men. Their anuses are no tighter than ours!
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (10 March 2009):
 It's tight, it's dirty and we know we're not supposed to. We know that not everybody loves it and we feel exited when we're aloud to do it.
It can either be a painful or a pleasurable experience.
It's good to tell your partner early on about it, that way it's clear from the start what you like.
I tend to connect more to people who submit to that fetish of mine, the willingness of making things work is greater.
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reader, Legioness +, writes (10 March 2009):
 Could be any reason, could be that its cos its a taboo, it could be a fetish, some sort of kink, it could be cos of the pure reason that its tighter and feels better for him? It varies from person to person :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI remember when he came back from a prostate exam complaining how painful it was. He knows it hurts but asks me to have anal sex, saying all his ex-girlfriends loved it. I firmly expressed my feeling, NO. I told him that I will try to accommodate any sexual fantasies he has but not the anal sex. Honestly, I really do not understand why he did not let me know his anal sex preference (especially his experiences with his ex-GFs) before the marriage. If I knew it, I would have not married. Why men want the anal sex? Is this type of sexual-desire normal for every man?
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