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*ifeless-Heart
writes:I'm have a real hard time get over this guy,ok well we never really dated but it seemed like it, cause he would always look at me with love dovey eyes, overprotective, and talked about me.Now I see that he was a big jerk so you could say I was blinded by Love, I don't know what to do I'm on vaction and I don't start school till Aug. and I want to klnow how I could get over him, he still has feelings for me i think and to be perfectly honest I still have feelings for him. I don't know what to do, I always think that I will see he around town but I don't he probley went to L.A for Summer, but I don't know.Please help I really want to get over him. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 June 2008):
 You're probably thinking about what could have been, rather than what really was. You two never dated, you said, and you realized that he's a jerk. So my guess is that you're still hung up on the IDEA of him, rather than the REALITY of him.
I realize that since you never dated, then you never really broke up, but there are some good ideas in this article that might help you cope with the summer months.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
Keep yourself as busy as possible, and start to separate the fantasy of what he represents from his real self. Write down the things that you like about him, then write down the things that you don't like. Put the lists away for a week, then go back and reread and edit them again. In a month, you'll have a pretty good idea of what it is you are looking for in a guy, and what it is he had to offer.
Sorry for the homework assignment, but it couldn't hurt. :)
Enjoy your summer, your vacation, your youth! Give yourself an interesting project to do. Do you like photography? Go around town and take pictures of things that appeal to you, and create an album by the end of the summer. Do you like music? Spend some time reading the reviews of new albums and listen to them, and have a top 10 list by the end of the summer. Develop the soundtrack to the summer of '08, years from now, you'll remember how you were feeling just by listening to these songs. Do you like fashion? Take a sewing class and learn to make some cool clothes. Just a little project that will give you something to look forward to everyday.
Have a good summer, and give yourself some time to just have these feelings. But do keep yourself as busy as you can.
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