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female
age
41-50,
*adetimeforme
writes:I met a great guy on the internet. We talked for about 6 weeks. We ended up sleeping together. He gave me a kiss and told me to call him. I did but he didn't answer, then he called me the next day and I didn't answer. We played phone tag a couple more times then I e-mailed him telling him that I am scared about a relationship so he e-mails me the next day saing hey hun, you can call me, I just needed a break in my mind and I get like that sometimes. Then he asked me how I was doing and how my weekened was. So I did call him and leave a message but he didn't answer or call me back. What does this mean? Is he blowing me off or really just needs more time? Should I give him a few more days, or move on with my life. How long should I give him to sort things through? I really like him and don't want to mess things up. I don't want to seem too anxious or available either? I could really use some advice here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2007): Move on. If a guy really likes you they don't need ANY TIME to realise it or try to figure it out. They absolutely know. You are never going to get further than phone tag and perhaps occasional sex with this guy.
Oh and P.S. NEVER tell a guy that you are "scared" of a relationship UNLESS he is your friend and he is someone you trust. But a guy you just met??? NEVER. Guys don't like vulnerability, weakness. They like to know that you know exactly what you are doing and know EXACTLY what you want. Once he becomes your friend or boyfriend and you trust him, then you can let him know about some of your fears. But until then NEVER. Always act like you are strong, cool and determined and like you know what you want and you know what you are doing. Half the time they know that you are totally clueless anyways but they LOVE the fact that at least you believe in yourself and think you know what you are doing. It is charming and guys will love you for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2007): He might have just been trying to be polite. If he has not responded to your phone call, it would be better to leave it alone.
You have gone to some length to get in touch with him, it sounds like - more than he has with you.
By the way, did you sleep with him on your first or second date? If so, BIG mistake! Men don't tend to value women who hop into bed with them too quickly. They are apt to think if you were that eager to have sex, then maybe that's your modus operandi with others........
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