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writes:Hello, I am looking for some advice. I have liked this guy for the past six years. We kind of grew up together, as a child I idolized him and he was the big brother I never had. But as I got older I started to develop real feelings for him. Fast forward to now, I still like him, I'm in college now and looking to get married by the time I graduate. However, he is now done with college and not around that much anymore. Two years ago he almost asked me out but I was still in high school so it wasn't really a good time. My question is, how can I get to know him better and date him when he's hardly around? I do feel the interest is mutual but he's at the point where he's working on his career so I'm sure he doesn't really think of me unless I'm right in front of him. I know it's not possible to be in love with him, but I deeply care for him and I think I really have the potential to fall in love with him and marry him. Please help me to get this very important person to be a permanent part of my life! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2013): You can try to get this man that means so much too you in your life. You are first going to have to meet him over coffee or a drink or dinner and talk. He could be in another committed relationship and he may not be interested in you in the way you are in him. Then you must pull up your socks and dust yourself off and move on. You after all have a lot of past memories now you must look forward to building new ones with someone else. Good luck.
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reader, xgod +, writes (8 June 2013):
 First, it's great that you have found someone you wish to become more than friends with.Second, if you are going to college, what is your major? Why are you going to college? What are your plans for a career or life after graduating?Or are you going to drop all that work you did and become a wife and mother and forget about a career? I am not saying you cannot have both, but you (and presumably your parents) are racking up some serious bills for your education. Should you consider perhaps waiting for marriage and focus first on friends, love, and your financial future, rather than settling down and trapping yourself in a relationship with enormous student loan bills to pay?I speak from experience when i say you need to grow into marriage, and not settle for the first one you felt this way about.If he is busy, ask him if he has time for dinner, a date, or just coffee together to chat.If he is with someone else, think about hoe great a companion he has been for years and allow yourself a chance to find someone else, if you are willing to do that.Just my 22 cents. (inflation)
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