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writes: Okay so this might be wrong in some of your eyes but to them it is love. they know they will be married when they get older. they love each other more than anything else in the world. her dad loves him and his family loves her.but there are a few problems. he is 19 and she is 14.her mom hates him and has taken him to court.she does everything to see him and talk to him.she has ran away from her house to see him and to be with him. she calls him off her stepdads phone when her mom and him are asleep. she has been caught at his house. she sees a shrink because her mom thinks it will help but she hates her mom. she wants to live with her dad but her mom wont let her.i know shes made mistakes but what do i tell her?me and another good friend want to help her figure out something but we are scared she will get mad because we both know how much they love eachother.please help me [xxxx-breanna] Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell to be honest they were already caught and he got a fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): She only thinks she is in love when your that young and an boy older than you pays attion to you your horomones go nuts. Believe me I've been there.You still can't do anything about this situation she is a minor and is forced to wait untill she is 18. Like I said in my responce see if he will wait and please post if he dose wait untill she is 18. That's the only way it will work.If he waits for her to turn 18 and respects her Mom and her Moms wishes then I will believe he realy loves her. Cause people in love respect each others family and would not want to put a strain on a mother daughter relationship and asks for thier hand in marriage the right way not by getting arrested and possiby breaking the law.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsorry but no, its not lust. they have been inlove for over a year and she would do anything for him and vice versa...
when you break the law to be with someone you love like she loves him isnt lust.
she told me she would rather shoot her mom than not have him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): All you can do is support her.Let her Mom handel the situation. The guy is to old for her. Maybe you can suggest since she thimks she is in love that maybe she could ask the boyfriend to wait until she is 18 to date her. If it's truly love to him he would wait. But my guess is it's lust and she'll get over it. I once date a guy who was 27 and I was 17 my family did not approve of this ethier but I thought I was in love and could not live without him.We broke up and I got over it. Thier age diffrence is not that far apart but it is when your that young unless she is extremly mature for her age or he is inmature.Regardless you have no say in this all you can do is try to comfort her. Hope everything goes alright my guess is this my be a little bumpy so be ready for drama. good luck Tell her if the relationship ends that it will only get better and the pain will not last forever thats a promise.
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