A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I've kind of lost faith in love. The guys I dated taught me harsh realities and often love is not enough. I used to be romantic as a teenager and then it became mutual love and respect, then it became more about finding a good intellectual match and compatibility with all other conditions working in favor(such as cultural, family background etc). According to indian standards, I should be married by now and it has come down to finding a suitable match. At this point I've lost faith in relationships, love and marriage. I do want a partner in future but I can't 'feel' like I used to. Has anyone gone through this phase? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2018): Yes I relate although my circumstance are different. But the reality is this , life is about so much more than men and what men want . Women are raised both overtly and covertly through families cultures and societies to focus way to much on whether men find them attractive and or ' want them ' . Allowing men to be the judges of our worth has been a problem for women throughout history and one that is not only reinforced by men but also by other women who may either benefit from or not see the system clearly The important thing in this life is finding you OWN worth and realising just how much people who judge on appearances are really missing out on . They are the ones who's personal development becomes stunted and who miss out on knowing the wonderful woman you . You are on this planet to have fun and to experience being in the physical form not to please others just because they happen to have a penis and have been ordained the right to judge your physicality and all other females Sc by society Yes it's totally normal to feel what you feel many women struggle with these feelings but it's also important to pull your focus back into yourself
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