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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My virgin girlfriend (28) of 1.5 years and I (27) have a wonderful, loving relationship. The lack of intimacy troubles me but there's only so many times you can bring this topic up without seeming like your pressuring her. Would you all be so kind as to share your thoughts with me before I decide to share (some of) mine with her?1. My arms around her, my hands on her skin and my kisses on her lips used to be so passionate. After all this time, my arms are limp around her and the desire is no longer there because (i) I don't feel desired by her, and (ii) I don't want my hands to stray to where they would otherwise like go when I'm aroused. Is passion in a platonic relationship possible?2. The lack of passion, intimacy and desire in our relationship makes me very apprehensive about a prospective marriage lacking any of theses. Can someone saving themselves for marriage really become more passionate overnight? What's to say that she won't continue to have little interest in sex? She is amazing but it's hard to imagine a life of once a month sex.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 January 2012):
 I am assuming she does not believe in sex before marriage. Therefore if you are serious about this well then you need to be serious about her and see that you will be the first to get with her. I am sure she wants it just as bad as you, but her beliefs comes before that so she is taking that in to account to see if you are serious about her, if you are well then tell her, but also tell her your worries and fears over your sex life and see what she has to say...
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