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writes:Hi every one, can u give me some advise please. I am on the verge of losing my friends and my sis to. Every thing is just a mess right now and i've been very depressed so much it hurts. I went out with a mate of mine about 3 months ago and my drink was spiked got into a bit of trouble dont really want to go into details, however ever since this has happened my husband does not want me to go out any more. He says that he is protecting me but in actual fact hes not. My sis along with my mates are angry that he is controlling me and that i am being treated like a child. He says why is it that i want to go to clubs and stay out late which to a certain point i agree, but i never go out to socialise with my mates except once every 2-3 months, before we met that was, I am 23 and its wat people my age do once in a while. I have stopped going out as much as i use to when i was single. I do understand that i have my responsiblities as i am married but at the same time he cannot tell me when i can and cannot go out and what time i should be back, or is it? My sis hates hanging out with me as i have to rush home at 6 every week, (cause thats how often i see her) and my mate i havent seen her from the time this happened. I hate the way he treats me now and i am really starting to resent him for it. After whats happened to me, i've moved on but he wouldnt and he's protecting me or so he says and treats me like a child, he acts like a parent. I want things to go back to that way they were and i want him to give me my indepedence back. Is he right for treating me that way and all the other stuff even though is causing me to resent him for it? please advise thanx much
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (16 June 2007):
 Hi there honey,
What happened to you is terrible and I am sorry for that but your husbnd obviously is terrified this may happen again and has gone well over the top, he doesn't mean to he loves you and maybe he feels really bad as he was not there to protect you like he feels he should have done he is a male and its natural instinct to protect...trust me he is suffering for this too...
I understand you still want to go out with your sister and your friends you need to tell him how your feeling babes, and also tell him you understand how he feels he is terrified he want s to protect you etc...
He can not wrap you in cotton wool your a big girl and you have learnt a very valuable lesson that will never happen again.....
I hope you can both get through this together hun, I wish you well'
Love Donna x
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reader, JessIzFit +, writes (16 June 2007):
 Heya, I think he is onli trying to protect you. But if you don't like it then you have to sit down and tell him. Obviously his idea of protecting and your idea of protecting are different. Maybe you could tell him maybe to just let you have a little bit of freedom. Like you said you need to go and live your life and see mates aswell as your husband. You might have to tell him soon though as you might get really annoyed and divorce him.
Much love and happiness
Louise
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