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writes:I have always been self concious about my body.. I'm 5"1 small boobs and ive always felt shy about my body i compare my self to other people and it makes me insecure... I think im most concisious about my boobs.. they are a size 32 b and i had found a push up bra that i loved and it makes my boobs look way better then with a simple push up.. but ive gotten used to the way the other bra makes me look.. and i feel like guys will notice that it was the bra making my boobs look good and im scared ill make a fool of my self.. help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2012): Hey sweetie, I can relate I used to be a 32b as well, tall and very slender, I then fell pregnant and my bust went from a 32 to a 38c and stayed that way even after losing the baby bulge haha..Look push up bra is a fantastic idea, and they do make you breast look amazing... I can understand what you mean by will other people notice, honestly sweetie they won't .. It's you that notices, so this is my suggestion..Just like we get our hair cut differently and it takes a while for us to really like it, even when our friends or people we don't know go I love your hair, this so the same with your bust..So start wearing your bra and panties in your room (private like ) and strut up and down make sure you have amirror to admire yourself in.. And do this until you feel comfortable in it..Having a lithe body is sexy... So sweetie before you know it with a little bit of confidence you'll have them lining up, drooling haha...Just you get used to it before going out wearing it..Take care and keep us posted
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reader, person12345 +, writes (24 November 2012):
 Guy know we wear push up bras. No one has weirdly smooth round shaped breasts without a bra, they know there's some padding and push up to them normally. Just like they know that when we wear mascara our eyelashes aren't really long and thick and dark. And our legs aren't really that long in heels. Guys know all this and they're not going to judge you for it.
Look at Kate Hudson, do you think anyone thinks she doesn't have a totally amazing body? She wears an A cup as well and she has an amazing figure.
Trust me, if a guy sees you naked he's not going to be thinking "hmmm her breasts shrank a little..." he's going to be thinking "OMG SHE'S NAKED BOOBS BOOBS BOOBS"
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2012): I have to disagree with CaringGuy OP. Women should actually pay more attention to the celebrities that we guys like, the most successful ones and the majority of those on 'sexiest women' lists all have small boobs. Jessica Alba, Emma Stone, Emma Watson, Mila Kunis (this years sexiest woman alive), Avril Lavigne, Taylor Swift, Jennifer Lopez, Charlize Theron, Jennifer Lawrence, Selena Gomez, Miley Cyrus, Kate Beckinsale, Rihanna, Zooey Deschanel the list goes on and on OP. Not one of those women have big boobs and those lists don't have many women with big boobs in them.
If you pay close attention to the idea of boobs in the media OP rightly or wrongly skinny women with big boobs are presented as dumb trash. Sex objects with no brain and most play up to that role too and those that don't really struggle for recognition of their other talents. Pamela Anderson, Jordan, Kim Kardashian the list is smaller but I'm sure you can find plenty. OP please don't think or try to be like them. I know big boobed women that would love to have smaller breasts both in terms of back aches and the fact that no matter how hard they try to cover them up guys can't see past the boobs.
I don't get where people think the media sells big boobed women as something to strive for unless being a dimwit whose only "talent" is having big breasts is something women think is a good thing, big boobed women are paraded like side show freaks in the media. I know that's not fair on them but that's how they're portrayed. Small boobed women in the media are the most beautiful women in the world, super models all have small boobs, the most successful and respected actresses pretty much all have small boobs.
I personally love small boobs, I way prefer them. They're always more pert, they're the perfect size for playing with and they look great.
You will very, very rarely meet a guy who takes off that bra and doesn't like what he sees. In fact I don't think you'll ever meet a guy like that.
OP if you're going to compare your body to other woman then at least compare yourself to the ones who are the prettiest, most respected and most desirable to both men and women, the vast majority of those all have small boobs.
Now unless you want to date some shallow Jersey Shore player, guido type then really don't worry. Big boobs are a novelty that are more noticeable and women with big boobs love to show them off to make other women jealous because women have a really warped idea about what constitutes a beautiful boob. I've always preferred small ones and big boobs just weren't as nice for me, OP ask any big boobed woman they'll tell you that most of them don't age well at all, they end up with their nipples by their belly buttons and you should see what happens after they have kids. Most big boobed women around my age (mid 30's) would really prefer more manageable smaller ones. I've dated big boobed women too scared to take off their bra during sex because they felt they were a bit saggy and they felt they looked horrible. You don't really have to worry about any of that.
I mean none of that stuff really matters to us guys, in any real sense. We don't really care about sag or any of that, but the big boobed women I know don't really like having them all that much and the only consolation is the novelty factor of showing them off. For a lot of them though the bad outweighs the good. So don't look at a big boobed woman with jealous eyes OP, they have their own issues with them and from what I've seen they have far more reason to complain than you do as regards boobs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2012): "I feel like guys will notice it was the bra making my boobs look better and I'm scared I'll make a fool of myself"
Exactly who's business is your body? Yours or theirs?
Any guy who would notice you've switched bras just by the way your boobs look from one day to the next, obviously spends way too much time looking at your breasts, and so by rights if anyone mentions anything about it, you tell em' to mind their own business and stop being a pervert.
I believe this is more your mind running away with you. Just because you have a complex with your body image, and you notice it everyday because you look at it, doesn't mean anyone else will notice or have an issue with the way you look.
Its important to remember that there's no such thing as perfect, and you may look at other girls and think "Well the way she looks is more ideal" but how do you know that she doesn't have a scar under her top, or a birthmark on her butt, or she would just prefer to look slightly different from how she does look?
People's self image problems are as personal to that individual as their DNA, so what you might not deem acceptable on your body, someone else might love to have and vice versa.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 November 2012):
For women, I suppose the whole 'body' thing can be very hard at times, given the fact that there is so much rubbish peddled to you by TV/porn/celeb magazines/immature men/immature woman etc. There is a lot of pressure from all those for women to do things they don't want to, or that ultimately cause women a lot of pain - even though they don't need to change, or feel pain.
From a male point of view, I've never dated a woman just because of her boobs! Ever! And I would say that most other men haven't either. Yes, there will be some shallow men who look at a pair and think that is all the woman is about. But, for the most part, men do like for a woman to have a good personality, and confidence, and dreams of what they want to do with their lives. The world doesn't just revolve around boobs! Thankfully.
First of all, there's nothing wrong with you or your body.
You're a perfectly normal woman, and I think if you could work on your confidence, you'd see that. So maybe you need to just do things that make you feel good.
Secondly, guys won't notice the push up bra and think you're a fool. At all. And if a guy does, then he's not worth your time!
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