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*oria
writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years and have lived together for two. When we first agreed to move in together I said that I would not move in if there wasnt a mutual agreement about marriage as Ive lived with 1 other person before and just want to be married this caused me anxiety in the beginning cause its not the value i had held for myself or my daughter anyways its been 2 years and have slipped subtle and non subtle hints but nothing, I feel like I should say something but dont want to pressure him but then I told him my position and he agreed which now he says he doesn't remember what is the best course of action as Im getting frustrated and wonder why something I value is being unheard. Thanks so much in advance Lori Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2008): hi lory.
am sorry to hear about your situation.
i think he remembers everything well, he just doesnt want to get married. lory he is a MAN, he knows exactly what he wants and what he doesnt want. if u are unhappy about the situation and youve showed him that you are unhappy and he does nothing about it then he just isnt the right guy for the marriage.
if marriage is very important for you then you should give him an ultimatum but be prepared that hed rather lose you than marry you.
why is marriage so important for you - what benifits will it give to you? do you love him enough to live like this with him forever? i think its humiliating for the woman to ask a man if he wants to marry her, men are hunters they need you for that cozy lovenest, they need you to have hot dinner on the table and for kids of course. if he doesnt want to commit well screw him. besides, ive just thought, whats his financial situation, maybe it is in such a state that getting married to him will bring you down financially? maybe hes got some loans to pay?? just consider every possibility before getting into a heated argument. one thing men REAL MEN do though is - they answer your questions without trying to just mumble their way out of it. if he refuses to talk to you well do u need a head of the household that cant hold responsibility???
good luck xx
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