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writes:HiI met a girl on a language exchange site, usually it's for meeting people in other countries but a girl who had moved to study near to me from another country, saw my profile and sent me a message. She asked for my number and we've been chatting a lot, every day since for the last 2 weeks and we've agreed to meet up we just haven't agreed on a day as we're both busy often and not sure when is free. The ball is in her court on that one as she has less free time than me so has said she will choose a day that is best. The language exchange site we use also has the option to say you're looking for a relationship, which i did not turn on, however on her profile it says she is.We get along great, have a lot in common and have spoken every day. things have been going really well. I realised that i really like her.she compliments me a lot, makes jokes and always writes to me from morning until night. her messages are long and she genuinely seems interested in talking with me. you can tell when someone enjoys the conversation and i am sure she does.Yesterday we were texting as usual and she fell asleep so didn't reply. Today she read my message and hasn't replied. I told her i would wake up late today so she may have not replied when she read it for that reason as she has done that before. its now nearly time to go to bed again, so i suspect i won't hear from her today. So probably she just forgot to reply or was busy. I know there are may potential reasons, not all of them bad.My questions are1. If i don't hear from her, do you think it's ok to message her again tomorrow?2. I feel worried that she didn't message for a day and I think that means she doesn't like me too. Is that an over reaction? i know there could be 100s of reasons for it but i've had bad luck with dating before were girls just lost interest and stopped replying so unfortunately that is always on my mind.should i be more relaxed and try to not worry?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 September 2015):
 Just remind her one more time that you are still up for the date and if she doesn't respond, then you have your answer. If you had messaged each other morning till night then I am sure you are on her mind and she has time for you. Don't let past rejections affect you. Dating is about finding a good match. It's not about getting into a relationship with whomever says yes to you. You are bound to lose interest with some girls you don't fancy too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2015): My dear,
Firstly I want to talk about the second question:
Don't worry, it's just a message. I already used exchange sites and, like a good woman, I love to let men waiting for my answer, or just ignore ir. It's normal, she can saw your message and had to do something at that momment, so she didn't answered cause she think she already answer. It happens all time!
And the first question: of course you can send a message her tomorrow. But forget it for today, do another thing that keeps your attention to don't think about her.
I hope I could help you.
Good luck with your girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2015): It seems like it's been a little full on. You guys haven't actually met and your messaging every single day - when you do meet you will have nothing to talk about!
Leave it another day, and then message and outright suggest a day and place to meet - somewhere informal and in the day time and just ask if she'd like to grab lunch or a coffee with you? Set the wheels in motion as they say, that will clearly show you're keen to get to know her. It might not suit her, but then she has the option to politely decline and then you'd know she's not interested - or she will suggest a time that's good. Just go for it, good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2015): I think you should give the girl a little bit longer than one day to reply to your message! Leave it a few days at least. If you hear nothing send a quick message and ask how she is, if you hear nothing still then leave it.
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