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writes:I have been with my boyfriend since 8th grade some on and off parts but not many and I'm 19 now and have been having second thoughts. i know I love him. He is practically family but i don't think I want to be in a relationship this serious so young. I want to go out and meet new people and hang out with guys without being harassed that I'm cheating. He has dated other girls and done his fair share of going out and having fun so he doesn't understand why I feel like I'm missing out. I really don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to lose him but at the same time I think I will regret it if I never go out and do my own thing. Reply to this Question
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reader, iReval +, writes (14 November 2010):
Hey,
My GF and I have been together for 8 months and she's repeatedly told menthat she wants to go out with her friends babes 22 and I'm 21, the difference is maturity. Besides the point you are young she's expels her thought of "Were still young" and quite honestly we are but she has had her fair share of parties and clubs and all of the above I don't mind that she goes out with her friends but i mind sometimes for she chooses them over me. My point is show him you can balance both things. Friendships and relationships they are different but the same in time spent. Enjoy life together and when it's girls night out just incurs him with "Hey babe, I'm thinking of going with friends to a girls night out at____ I'd love for you to go but it's girls only" IDK. Make it clear, my GF. And I ofcourse need to figure how to fix this "mis-trust" but in time but I hope my relationship and thought helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): Yes, this is very logical and he should be fair. Its perfectly normal to be curious especially when so young. Perhaps you could suggest a open relationship and determine boundaries. Then again, there can always be risk in that especially if youve been together for a long time. It might just be best to split up because you guys are curious. That way no one has to worry about any rules/agreements and can be free to do as they wish, and when youre young that can be a good option as it gives you freedom to learn more about people in general without any limitations. Good luck here :)
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