A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am in a clueless frame of mind as to what to do with my relationship. I am in a relationship with a man (gay) that has become sexually strained, well for me at least.He has decided to tell me after years that he just isn't a very sexual person. This wasn't the case initially but that is his "reason" for not being so keen now.I withdrew and waited until only when he was interested in sex or intimacy which is far less than how often I would like to. This works well but is a very suppressing and frustrating for me.Sometimes I just can't help myself. This morning I thought how hot he was looking and slid my hand up his shorts while he was laying on the lounge. The look he gave me was enough to shatter my heart into a thousand pieces. I said "what?" not being capable of much more and he just pushed me away with one finger, and then carried on as if everything was just wonderful and dandy.I feel like I am going to fall apart. I am love and he loves me but surely the way things are isn't good!? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): As time goes by people's sexual desires and needs do change. It is very important therefore to always communicate with your partner to find out if what he liked two years ago is the same now.
Sit down and just have a frank discussion with him about how you feel and what could change in your sex life. There are tons of books to give you new ideas of bedroom play to spice things up a bit and keep your sex life fresh.
Another very important factor to consider is hormones, as we get older our bodies change and he could have an imbalance that is affecting his labido (sex drive). So if all the above does not work consult a doctor as it is a common problem.
Good luck and i hope your back to amazing sex soon :-)
A
reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): Has he told you he is gay? Or is it a gut feeling? Sounds like there is not much communication going on there! I don't know what else to say except, talk to him. it could be that he is coming to terms with his sexuality, but to reject you in the way he did, is unforgivable in my book!!! It's insulting, humiliating, and heartbreaking! I would've had to walk out, even if it was just temporarily...and just to let him know how much he hurt you! Just thinking about how you must have felt at that moment is making me angry!
I would have a long talk with him and explain that just because he is having problems does not give him the right to treat you like a piece of crap!
...............................
|
