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writes:I'm 16 and I'm turning 17 next month. I have a wonderful boyfriend who isn't one of those immature guys that go out with a girl just to satisfy himself or whatever. He's my long time best friend, we're both juniors in high school, and we really want this to work out, even after high school. The problem is my parents, of course. See, I have the typical Asian parents so they can be strict at times. It's becoming more difficult for us to hide our relationship and I'm getting tired of lying to my parents, which I don't like doing. I have to sometimes say I'm going out to with friends just to see my boyfriend. He really does love but I feel so bad he has to put up with this. I want to make it easier for the both of us but mainly him because I don't want him to feel like my parents hate him. I know they don't but I understand they have their reasons to feel a certain way about their only daughter dating. My parents aren't cold though, they will listen to me but I don't know how to come up to them about my boyfriend without sounding like those typical love sick teenagers. I've basically seen it all with high school relationships and I'm positive about mine because we're so compatible and attached it's not even funny. Please give me some advice, I don't want to slip up :(
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reader, supermum  +, writes (10 December 2011):
 Hey babe, well all I can suggest is being honest. Go to your parents and say you have met this guy that you really like, and you would love for them to meet him. Although I would not lie if asked directly, I would perhaps not mention that this has been going on for a while behind their back.They will be aware that you will be interested in boys at your age, so I doubt it will be a huge shock. The best thing you can do is act like the adult you want to be treated like. They may well want to stick some boundaries on the relationship, limit the amount of time you spend together, make sure you are not together alone etc etc, and it is really important that you respect those limits. It will build up trust between you all.It is going to be hard for them to let their little girl grow up, so make sure you make time for them too and let them know you are still the same girl. I hope that helps.
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