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writes:How do you get over your first love? My friends tell me i should be over him by now but he was my first everything and it is hard to let go. He still tries talking to me once in awhile and i always have a weakness for him and end up talking to him again. We talk for a little then he always has a new girl. I feel like i am just someone who he uses when there is no one else around. I still love him but i want him to realize i won't always be there waiting. Any advice?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (5 August 2013):
 Cut contact with him. Being around him won't give you the chance to get over him. The only way to show him that you won't be there waiting is to let go completely. Then and only then can you start getting over him. Sure your fingers will itch to pick up that call but the hardest and most rewarding part about cutting contact is not responding to his efforts. You already know you're being used so take the next step and show him that you WILL NOT to be used by him anymore.It may seem abit hard to believe that you will get over him at the moment but you definately will. Take the necessary steps and it will all work out.Goodluck
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reader, Helloduckiexox +, writes (5 August 2013):
 You have take a step back. He broke up with you. Why are you waiting? Even of you guys get back together he will always take advantage of you.
I know , because I do the same things with girls. I am not proud of it but I do. That when I got a reality check ,that I am really messing up people's lives. Don't fall for he's trap.
Learn to be independent
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 August 2013):
 How can he realize you won't be always there waiting, if you ARE always there waiting ?
And what you feel is probably correct- he is using you to kill time and feed his ego between girlfriends.
If you are seriously tired to wait that maybe after the 12th or 15th new gf he might see the light and come back to you, and you are serious about moving on, the first thing you should do is to go no contact. Don't answer his messages, ignore him, block him if you have to, but do not be there pinning your hopes on a crumb of attention thrown your way when he randomly feels like " talking " ( by which I suppose you mean texting ? )
Yes it will hurt- well, even like now , being stuck in a limbo while he dates other girls and uses you as a D-list friend , it does not sound like it's much fun, is it ? So might as well summon up a bit of courage and move on for real.
And yes, I know it's wasted breath reassuring you that you will get over him, that ALL first loves seem unforgettable and insuperable, but eventually they get to be just another memory- but I'll tell you anyway :). Stats show that the erecentage of married people who married their first high school sweetheart is very very low- that must mean they break up, move on and find someone else, no ?
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