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writes:There's a guy who I work with, we work at a recreational centre for youths. I've noticed he's been acting different around me when we work together. I'll list a few examples: whenever we talk, he'll make eye contact and then he looks at my lips, he teases me a lot, I've caught him staring at me at times, sometimes he'll smile or make a funny face if we make eye contact across the room, If I'm talking to a coworker about another guy, he'll chime into our conversation with a slick comment, he makes slick comments like "your boyfriend is texting you" whenever my phone goes off with message notifications (I'm single btw), he makes dirty jokes with me, and sometimes he'll give me a quick scan when we're talking. The thing is, he has a girlfriend. I'm just curious, does he have a thing for me?
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reader, madmax8118  +, writes (1 December 2017):
i had a friend would pick up on girls and lie to them. don't be a fool. one it will come.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 November 2017):
 His girlfriend thinks he likes you, as saw him flirt with you and she is still with him? It sounds like he is a smooth flirt that gets away with everything, I would stay well clear, he spells trouble.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 November 2017):
 Just don't waste your time on a guy like this. If he is the kind who flirts with other girls in front of his GF... He isn't a very respectful guy and HE will do the same to you. And... DON'T be "that" girl... the one that chases guys who have a GF already...
Aim higher.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHoneypie, thank-you for your feedback. I do join in when he does these things, however, there have been times where I've ignored him but he found ways to get my attention. We are the same age (26) and he 's flirted with me infront of his gf before but I ignored it. Also, she thinks he likes me
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank-you guys for responding to my question, I really appreciate it. Denizen, I am flattered to be honest and I find myself attracted to him since we have a lot in common. I don't go out a lot due to being a full time student and working part time, it makes it hard for me to meet guys.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 November 2017):
He has a GF, so if I were you I'd dial it back a few notches.
And like Denizen mentioned, you two work together, another tick in the "don't even go there" box.
Why does he do it? Because you join in. It might be a bit more than just being friendly - but it's not because he is looking to dump his current GF for you. He is getting his ego stroked with you participating. He might be playing games - especially at a place where he has young co-workers - who might think there HAS to be a reason he is trying to make them feel special. You think if his GF showed up for a visit he would treat you the way he is right now? My guess is no.
If you are JUST curious... know that while he might be charming and trying to push your buttons there isn't much point to playing his games.
Having banter with a coworker can be fun. AS long as you KNOW and understand how to set boundaries. Becuase it can quickly go from banter to "this is kinda inappropriate".
Like Denizen said, if you are looking for a partner, look elsewhere - OUTSIDE your workplace.
Would you like it if he WAS your BF and he was acting like he is with you, with another girl? Think about it.
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reader, holeymoley  +, writes (7 November 2017):
 Flirty little chap, I have to agree. Be careful...
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (7 November 2017):
 Hello 'Just Curious'. Keep your mind on your job and off the office guy. He is just being friendly. He has a girlfriend. You, on the other hand, do not have a boyfriend.
Don't look for connections at work. I cannot recount how many times the Aunts have issued this piece of information.
I know you have said your are, 'Just curious'. But let's be honest. You are more than a little flattered that someone is taking an interest in you, especially, as there isn't a significant other out there for you at the moment.
Why is that? That is the question behind the question. Is your social life conducive to finding the right guy? Let's work on getting you happily partnered off - with someone outside work.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (7 November 2017):
 Possibly, but it would only be to see if you'd have sex with him, not because he'd want to leave his partner for you. Keep your distance.
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