A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey guys, please tell me if you think im just being paranoid about this.Me and my boyfriend (both 18) have been together 6 months and mostly everything is great. Except I really really like him and im worried he doesnt feel the same way. Its just little things, like we usually see each other about twice a week, and I miss him a lot, but I dont think he misses me, or a least he never says so or shows it. Its always me that asks him if he wants to meet up, and usually he'll be like 'cant do tonight, maybe tomorrow' which makes me think do you actually want to see me or not? When we are together its great and he's so lovely to me, so I dont know if im just over analysing this. But its starting to make me feel pretty low cause i feel like he doesnt want to be with me. What do you guys think? (this is my first proper relationship so im a bit of a newbie when it comes to stuff like this! any advice would be much appreciated! :) ) Thanks.
View related questions:
am I being paranoid Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, dave1982  +, writes (11 December 2012):
Sorry to tell you that you're most likely not being paranoid. I know it's annoying to hear about age but... at 18 years old the vast majority of people aren't going to meet someone that they will be with for more than a few years. Since you still have a lot to learn about yourself, and him himself, it's likely that you guys just don't "click" in the necessary manner.It doesn't mean he's cheating on you, or dislikes you, but he should be the equivalent of a REALLY good friend to you. So, if he doesn't treat you as a really good friend - then he might be with you for the wrong reasons. No worries though, most people are together for the wrong reasons and it's important to remember that when things don't seem like they are working, they probably aren't. Never try to hold onto something so long that you suffocate it. Sometimes people go their own seperate ways because they realize that they just aren't the "team" they need to be - they have different interests, goals, and mindsets - and no one should ever try to change anyone unless they enjoy screaming... lolBest wishes to you!
A
male
reader, jfire86 +, writes (11 December 2012):
 How often do you ask to see him? If you are constantly asking him to come over, you may be smothering him. Give him space, make him make contact with you first. Play a little hard to get, it might just drive him crazy and want you more. It's something you will have to feel out and judge for yourself. I dont think you have anything to worry about. Good luck!
...............................
A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 December 2012):
 If you want to feel missed and adored you need to give him the chance to do so.
that means not calling him or asking to see him.
It's tough to do and it clearly will show you if your fears are justified.
some guys are just lazy about making plans so if he knows you are going to do it he won't make the effort.
...............................
A
male
reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (11 December 2012):
 No, i don't see it that way. What if I'm not paranoid and the whole world really is out tyo get me?
...............................
|
