Do I try to forget her, or try to stay friends?
Q. Quick history: I Met my wife 15 years ago. Two years ago I met my once-in-a-lifetime crush (I am in mid thirties and I have had my share of crushes, but this is way beyond anything I have experienced before). First year I tried to ignore/forget her. ...
A. 25 April 2010: Thanks for reply LunaSkye!
Happiness of our child is high priority for me, so divorce isn't an option. Our marriage is not that hot, but it's improving.
Divorce would be an easy way out, but so is just forgetting her. It all depends on her f... (read in full...)
I'm proposing to my wife that we "float" our relationship. What do you think?
Q. My marriage is in serious trouble after 15 years. We have 2.5 years old lovely daughter, which naturally makes things more complex. I am considering proposing that we would "float" our relationship. Here's how I think it could work: We continu...
A. 3 December 2009: Yesterday we dragged to the surface everything. Even the things we thought (in our heads) to be too big issues to be fixed.
Then we connected. I think it was the honesty: we had everything on the table and only direction was up. I think she brok... (read in full...)
I'm proposing to my wife that we "float" our relationship. What do you think?
Q. My marriage is in serious trouble after 15 years. We have 2.5 years old lovely daughter, which naturally makes things more complex. I am considering proposing that we would "float" our relationship. Here's how I think it could work: We continu...
A. 1 December 2009: The next thing I am going to do is list every positive thing about my wife I can find. She has unique features that make her special even if I have forgotten what they are.
I truly hope this list will give me something positive to focus on. If i... (read in full...)
I'm proposing to my wife that we "float" our relationship. What do you think?
Q. My marriage is in serious trouble after 15 years. We have 2.5 years old lovely daughter, which naturally makes things more complex. I am considering proposing that we would "float" our relationship. Here's how I think it could work: We continu...
A. 1 December 2009: A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009):
Remember why you fell in love and work to get the feeling
back...........not to see if you can find it (or not)
elsewhere.
I didn't fell in love. That's the problem. We started being tog... (read in full...)
I'm proposing to my wife that we "float" our relationship. What do you think?
Q. My marriage is in serious trouble after 15 years. We have 2.5 years old lovely daughter, which naturally makes things more complex. I am considering proposing that we would "float" our relationship. Here's how I think it could work: We continu...
A. 28 November 2009: My wife is an engineer who fixes her own bike etc. That should give you a little idea about her mindset. We have talked about dating and we both find the idea odd. We feel that dating isn't authentic. Being polite, caring, listening and sh... (read in full...)
Married! How do I get over this huge crush?
Q. I met my wife 15 years ago. It started as one night thing that just got extended... I have later realized that I never had a change to have big crush on her first. We just started being together because it was convenient and we liked each other. ...
A. 28 November 2009: Hello again. I wanted to give you an update. I had a good long talk with my crush. I learned that she had ended her previous relationship for the same reasons I am now struggling with mine. She also told me that she is now seeing someone. I told her ... (read in full...)
Married! How do I get over this huge crush?
Q. I met my wife 15 years ago. It started as one night thing that just got extended... I have later realized that I never had a change to have big crush on her first. We just started being together because it was convenient and we liked each other. ...
A. 3 November 2009: Thanks baby duck! I'll definitely check the book.
One reason why I have let my feelings run the show is that I think some of the issues between me and my wife would require too big compromises from both of us. The issues would start to dissolve... (read in full...)
Married! How do I get over this huge crush?
Q. I met my wife 15 years ago. It started as one night thing that just got extended... I have later realized that I never had a change to have big crush on her first. We just started being together because it was convenient and we liked each other. ...
A. 1 November 2009: Thanks again everyone! If I had had crush on my wife when we met things would be easier. Then it would be easier to accept my new crush as just normal human feeling (that can be ignored). The trouble is that our marriage is so close to pure fr... (read in full...)
Married! How do I get over this huge crush?
Q. I met my wife 15 years ago. It started as one night thing that just got extended... I have later realized that I never had a change to have big crush on her first. We just started being together because it was convenient and we liked each other. ...
A. 31 October 2009: Thanks! I needed that cold shower :-)
baby duck: Your reply helped me see this through her eyes. She gets a lot attention from guys and I think it's routine thing for her. Now that I think about it, her reaction to "complex" situations might be... (read in full...)
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