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I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...

A. 26 August 2008: For the record I have been seeing my doctor and adjusted my medication to help with anxiety symptoms. I agree that I been a little selfish in this situation. I have not done this with past relationships. If anything I have always been too good to ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 26 August 2008: Thanks for your input. But her comment 'thanks for your thoughts' came after I asked her how she was doing and offered that I was available if she needed anything or just someone to talk to. She never did reply to the 'kisses' comments. If I call ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 26 August 2008: I am very nervous about this. Should I call her and ask this? She hasn't texted me back since Saturday when she was playing golf. And that text didn't give me any indication if she was joking about her playing like crap or if she was serious and ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 25 August 2008: I'm still struggling with this situation with girl. I have texted her several times ove the past few weeks. She has usually responded but her responses don't seem to be very personal. On 8/15 we had some good texting, I had taken my nieces to the ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 12 August 2008: Well I texted her again this past weekend. I know that I should stay away but I just think about her and I give in to emotions. Then I break down and text her. After I do I kind of wait on edge for a reply. I was at my beach house again this ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 6 August 2008: Well I didn't go to the happy hour. I went to the beach for the weekend instead. I rent a house for the summer with several friends. Although I wasn't planning on beaching last weekend I didn't want to stay home alone all weekend with nothing to ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 31 July 2008: I get anxious when thinking about 'stuff'. Usually I am able to handle the pressure and stress of work, finances, home life and love life. But this recent situation with this woman on top of the other stuff has taken the anxiety to another level. ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 29 July 2008: Thank you for your input. Yes I do take my medication and have been on it for depression for several years. I have been functioning very well and have been very successfull in my career for many years. As for therapy I have not needed it in many ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 29 July 2008: That is correct, I have not been introduced to her children. But I have been to her house several times. When we went out I always picked her up there. We had dinner at her house a few times and I did spend the night there twice, although I left ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 28 July 2008: I thought that the card I got was a little too much. So I bought another card that doesn't put her in a position to respond. I definitely want to send her a card and wish her a good vacation. This card has a picture of a porpoise on the front ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 28 July 2008: I'm feeling kind of anxious right now. I just got home from my vacation and I am starting to worry about all the stuff I have to do, especially work. And I know already that tomorrow will be a bad day. I have trouble on Mondays getting work done ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 26 July 2008: Well, I broke down and sent her a text last night. Here's a summary of our texting: I said - "Hi, how have you been? Hope you and the girls are doing ok" She replied later at night when I was asleep - "I'm ok, girls are doing well, going to t... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 24 July 2008: Thank you all for your advice. I understand everything that you are telling me. I realize that I put too much emphasis on this one person. But we had a good relationship started and I'm sad that it has to end. Although I do understand why. I ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 22 July 2008: I am just so frazzled. I am on vacation at the beach with my brothers and nieces and nephews. Not a minute has gone by that I don't think about her and wonder what she is doing. Mostly I wonder what I am going to do next. Should I text her now ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 18 July 2008: Okay. Just to clarify. You think I should call her but wait unitl after both of our vacations? She's going away Aug. 3rd for 10 days. That would mean calling her about a month from now. Or should I call her when I return from my vacation on ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 18 July 2008: Ok, now I am really nervous. Do you really think I should call her? Or am I just wearing you down so that you say yes to calling her? Can you feel my anxiety in not knowing what to do? If I see her I am so afraid of getting an answer I don't ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 18 July 2008: Thank you for responding to my issues. I want to do more than just send a card. I miss her. I miss talking to her. I have never been very good at starting something, a relationship, a friendhip, getting to know someone, and then just stopping it ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 16 July 2008: I am feeling a little better and attending to some work but still doing alot of thinking about her. I try to think positive thoughts about the future but when I do I wonder if I am just fooling myself. I still feel very strongly about needing to ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 14 July 2008: Actually, when she said this was hard for her she was referring to it being hard to end our relationship when I have been so good to her. By hanging on to what she said am I leading myself on and giving myself false hope? You are confident that ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 13 July 2008: When I am thinking clearly I agree with the things you say. I know what I should do but doing it is very hard. I just want to think and ruminate. Little things remind me of her and that sends me into a tailspin. Can I give you some more details? ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 13 July 2008: Thank you all for responding. I have not called her or sent her a text. But when I feel weak I want to take some action. But as you suggested I realize that this will only be harmful in the long run. As for me I am having trouble. See, I have a ... (read in full...)

I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.

A. 12 July 2008: Thank you for responding. As I said, I know what I should do in this situation but my heart is having trouble handling it. I ran into her tonight at the club where we both belong. I wasn't expecting her to be there since she was away for 3 days ... (read in full...)

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