My husband thinks I killed his mother by standing up for myself!
Q. I have reached the limit in associating with my in-laws. After 30 years of taking abuse from them, I have decided that I have had enough and I am no longer putting myself at their disposal to allow them to continue treating me badly. I have sp...
A. 23 June 2010: Okay, Lola1. Thank you. I see now it is control/temper tantrums. I am finding my voice, finally. I've decided the next time he makes a stupid demand like that, I will tell him he can buy the groceries, and the person that does that also gets to cook ... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I killed his mother by standing up for myself!
Q. I have reached the limit in associating with my in-laws. After 30 years of taking abuse from them, I have decided that I have had enough and I am no longer putting myself at their disposal to allow them to continue treating me badly. I have sp...
A. 21 June 2010: I do respect the relationship of a father/dtr. I just don't think it should be to the exclusion of the mother and son. It feels like sides are being taken here.
A question for you. My husband screamed last week that I am not to buy lunchmea... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I killed his mother by standing up for myself!
Q. I have reached the limit in associating with my in-laws. After 30 years of taking abuse from them, I have decided that I have had enough and I am no longer putting myself at their disposal to allow them to continue treating me badly. I have sp...
A. 21 June 2010: I had yet another eye opener tonight. My dtr gave my husband his Father's day card. Inside she had written how thankful she is for all his help and direction, etc. For Mother's Day, I didn't get a card. She also took him out for lunch. It hurts so ... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I killed his mother by standing up for myself!
Q. I have reached the limit in associating with my in-laws. After 30 years of taking abuse from them, I have decided that I have had enough and I am no longer putting myself at their disposal to allow them to continue treating me badly. I have sp...
A. 20 June 2010: Thank you, Chippy2. I'm going to see the Dr. tomorrow and then sign up for counseling and take it from there. I seemed to have lost all feelings for him and don't even want to be in the same house together. He follows me everywhere and wants to do ... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I killed his mother by standing up for myself!
Q. I have reached the limit in associating with my in-laws. After 30 years of taking abuse from them, I have decided that I have had enough and I am no longer putting myself at their disposal to allow them to continue treating me badly. I have sp...
A. 20 June 2010: Wild Thaing, you are right. And it will take time. Last night, he and our daughter were bad mouthing our son. I see that they are...taking sides against my son and I. I think a family should be supportive of each other, not divisive. I can see my ... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I killed his mother by standing up for myself!
Q. I have reached the limit in associating with my in-laws. After 30 years of taking abuse from them, I have decided that I have had enough and I am no longer putting myself at their disposal to allow them to continue treating me badly. I have sp...
A. 19 June 2010: Thank you, everyone for your responses. I had to take time to seriously consider everything written. I want you to know that you helped me a great deal.
First of all, I didn't see my husband as continuing the abuse, and I thank you for that insi... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I killed his mother by standing up for myself!
Q. I have reached the limit in associating with my in-laws. After 30 years of taking abuse from them, I have decided that I have had enough and I am no longer putting myself at their disposal to allow them to continue treating me badly. I have sp...
A. 17 June 2010: Great answers, everyone. Thank you. Especially the lifeline thrown by 'You Wish'. I never realized my husband is the abuser. You are right that by his silence,he condoned their behaviour.
About the party, the guests consisted of people my SIL a... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I killed his mother by standing up for myself!
Q. I have reached the limit in associating with my in-laws. After 30 years of taking abuse from them, I have decided that I have had enough and I am no longer putting myself at their disposal to allow them to continue treating me badly. I have sp...
A. 17 June 2010: All of you had great answers. I just can't understand his total loyalty to his mother, even when she's dead, after all I've done for him. Nothing is ever good enough for him, and I'm sick and tired of trying to please him, and now this! The kids ... (read in full...)
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