How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 2 December 2011: Yeah, once again you all are right. I think what I will need to start a blog on now is how to learn how to trust again, so that one that I can start over again. Any takers on that subject lol?... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 1 December 2011: Hi all,
It has been a very long time since I have been on here. I wanted to update you all on what happened. It eventually ended with her divorcing me, and it turned out that she really did just want out. Everyone was right, it was nothing ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 8 September 2010: Update: I know it has been a while since I last posted on this site. I just wanted to inform the ones who care, that my wife is actually trying now. With a lot of work, she has found a little bit of faith to be receptive to me and take in my ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 26 July 2010: Well q1605, no disrespect to you and your wife or ex wife. I am not looking for her to come back as a ex wife, girl friend, or room mate. You take care also.... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 26 July 2010: To all,
Let me make something perfectly clear and concrete. I am not enjoying being in the situation that I am currently in, nor am I not man enough to handle difficult situations. What you all have failed to realize is that I have taken into... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 22 July 2010: Update: No progress as of yet still. I guess the silent approach gave her what she needed to completely harden.... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 15 July 2010: Honeypie, more than likely you are right. The entire time I was so busy being a man that I forgot to be a husband. You are also right that I should give up. The only thing is, I would rather live with have trying to save my marriage and it still ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 15 July 2010: Tisha, I have taken some of your advice and looked into some options. Thanks... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 13 July 2010: Update: I have still been keeping my space from her. Nothing as far as my knowledge has changed with her.... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 7 July 2010: Tisha, thanks for the advice and I will take it into great consideration. Apparently she had these feelings for quite some time now. I am not sure when exactly she started having them. Thanks again for your comment.... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 7 July 2010: Q1605: Everything that I have mentioned about what I have said the her is from past conversations. I have limited my contact and as I have posted I have even figured out a way to not make contact with her about the financial part as I mentioned in ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 7 July 2010: Tisha 1: She actually moved to Switzerland on a permanent level in Feb. The original reason that she was suppose to go to Switzerland is that she got laid off in November of last year from a job over here and could not find one that was in her ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 7 July 2010: To q1605: it's no problem man, like I said I understand that you all are trying to help me and thanks for that.... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 6 July 2010: Well I was not trying to get defensive about the subject. I value everyone’s opinion and I hope that you all continue to give me advice and help me through this very difficult time. I realize that I need to look into all these options about divorce ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 6 July 2010: Well to answer the question about the financial stuff. I have to contact her so often because it's bills that come monthly still that we are both under contract with. It's very unavoidable if I want it to get paid for. When I contact her, it's only ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 6 July 2010: Oregongrl: I guess you can say that I am somewhat of a perfectionist. I went through so much in my life that I try to do everything that is put in front of me to the best of my ability, and with a 110% effort. I especially applied this with my ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 5 July 2010: Thanks for the comment Oregongrl. I am trying my best to figure out how to adjust appropriately but I just don't know how to. It seems like I can't trick my brain into not thinking about it.
Update: no contact has been made by her or I since my... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 3 July 2010: Update: I was pretty much was told today in a txt by her that her mind is made up and that she is sorry that she was not clear and gave me any hope that her mind will change. This is a very devastating blow for me. I am trying to keep my head up ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 1 July 2010: Well Oregongrl, you are 100% right. Those are more than likely the reasons that's she is even being nice to me. She did do a 360 when she got to Switzerland. I am done with the begging for her and all I can do is just be nice. It's just hard to find ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 1 July 2010: Q1605: Well my wife said that she does not even see me sexually like that anymore, so I guess that’s not a good sign along with the other stuff.... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 30 June 2010: Q1605: Yeah I know I probably messed up with the conversation, but hopefully I have not lost. I got your point about no contact but I have to be a man and admit that it is very hard, ESP when my wife is the type of woman that with time she tends to ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 30 June 2010: Oregongrl1: That is not exactly the reason that she became upset with me and we had the serious discussion. I had a person that I consider a good friend and have been with me through this troubling ordeal from day one send her an email to possibly ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 30 June 2010: Update: I have been low key with her for the past couple of days and have not talked to her unless it was necessary. Yesterday she called me and was very upset at me, we discuss the issue in great detail and I did not talk to her anymore after that. ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 25 June 2010: Oregongrl: I completely understand what you are saying. I guess in a worse car scenario, I would not know how to start over. My wife meant and still does to me the world. I am not even sure if it’s possible at the moment for me to get over her (not ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 25 June 2010: Update: I spoke with her briefly because I had to (financial stuff) then just asked her how her day was going. She said it was a good day and we small talked about different stuff, but nothing relating to us getting back together. I then ended it ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 24 June 2010: Oregongirl: I respect your input and Im starting to feel that you are right. But I will say this again, I married the woman for a reason. Love is not something you can just switch on and off that easy. Well for me it's not. I don't fall in love ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 23 June 2010: update: She called like she said she would and I did not pick up the phone. She left a message and said that she called like she said she would and she's doing ok and glad to hear that I am feeling better. She then said maybe I will talk to you ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 23 June 2010: Update: Ok, out of nowhere this morning at 2:00am while I was working, my wife sends me a txt that states "I like your status and I hope you had a goodnight" My status that I posted on the little chat thing said; "I woke up with success on my mind". ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 22 June 2010: Oregongrl1: I appreciate the info, and my confidence has never left me in general. I just didn't have control over my emotion. I am starting to slowly get control over that again also. At this point in time, I am pretty sure that it is someone else ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 22 June 2010: Wild Thaing: I understand your logic, but I still think you don't realize that I don't want to let my wife go and move on. I married this woman for a reason. I have a love that passes the elements of what it is defined for this woman. I feel and ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 21 June 2010: Update: she txted me today and said hey I hope you are feeling better. I just said thanks and nothing more. I have not heard from her since. ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 20 June 2010: Q1605, you and Jilly are completely right. I have to find some way to be able to not think about her constantly. I have a slight dilemma that will cause me to have to talk to her regardless (shared financial obligations) but I will keep it very ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 19 June 2010: Update: She called me to see how I was doing. We talked on the phone for a while. She then asked me about work and how life is going. Then I talked to her about all the scandals with marriages (which is true) and how they are panning out. We had ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 19 June 2010: To Supersteph: Thanks for the kind words. Stuff like that is what keeps me going at times. As far as the working out. I did that for her while she was here and I still maintain that. So I am not sure what I can do that she had not already seen? ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 19 June 2010: Update: I kept my distance from her all day yesterday, and did not contact her the entire afternoon. She texted me later that evening and said "I'm ok by the way. Ur night going ok". I told her that I was sick from something I ate, and she kind of ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 18 June 2010: To: Wild thaing. I respect your opinion and thanks for that. My main priority is my marriage. I know The way it looks, that it's a strong chance that healing myself will become something that I'm forced to do. For me, it's easy to say that I need to ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 16 June 2010: Thanks man. I will try my best to fight and
also keep my distance. I pray that you and ur wife are right.... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 16 June 2010: I'm sure Q1605 wife is correct with that statement. I know it's nothing I can do or say that will make it work. The thing that I am trying to say is, that I can't accept it to be that way. I have already completely backed off from her as suggested ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 16 June 2010: I have a question for you all. What can I do if she decides to come in Sept. to show her that I am here for her and that she can fall in love with me again. I want to do something and be even more spectacular then the time she first fell in love ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 15 June 2010: Yeah rivi, I completely understand what you are saying. My mind wants to do exactly what you are saying, but for some reason my heart and my mind do not see eye to eye in this matter. I know I am only holding myself back with moving forward, and ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 14 June 2010: To Rivi: North Carolina would not even accept her UK degree period. So she was not allowed to set for the NC bar exam. I completely understand what you are saying as far as move one, but she is a one in a million type woman that up this point, I had ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 14 June 2010: Thanks q1605 for the comment. I feel at this point, I have no other option then to draw the line. Especially after my discussion with her yesterday. I am trying my best to do it as you say, but every time I get my mind a certain way to deal with it. ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 14 June 2010: Update: We were texting today and we got on the subject of her coming to visit in September. I asked her how long did she plan to stay and she said that she is not sure. She said that she needed to sort out some stuff that she still has here and ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 13 June 2010: Update: I have backed off completely from her and stopped contacting her. She has contacted me though every day and asked how I'm doing and things like that. I have kept it friendly and held back my emotions. So hopefully I will have some success, ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 12 June 2010: Yeah, I agree q1605. I can't describe the pain that I am feeling with no amount or combo of words know to the English language. I wish I could wake up from a dream, but unfortunately I cannot. I try to say that everything happens for a reason and I ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 11 June 2010: Update: She called me today and said that she had thought about it and her decision is still no. She is not in love with me no more and that she can't bring herself to say yes to giving me another chance. So I guess that's all I can do. I told her, ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 11 June 2010: To q1605: she could not take the bar in north Carolina because they would not except her foreign law degree. Also, she is not the type of person that is stuck up and hung over money like that. But I do know she likes nice things and traveling and ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 11 June 2010: To Sweetiebabes: I did everything in my power and knowledge to support her with her dreams and careers. I strongly supported her during the interview process with jobs and even when she was rejected, I supported her and told her that everything will ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 10 June 2010: Thanks for the advice q1605. Do you mind giving telling me how long it took you, and give me a brief discription of what occurred and how it worked? Thanks... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 10 June 2010: To all,
I spoke with her again today. I did not try to get on the subject about us, but we started talking about her coming to visit in Sept.(She had planned this anyways, so that she could get her stuff) and I asked her what day's did she have... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 8 June 2010: I am trying to slack up on the emotions when I talk to her. I only say hi and hope that her day is going well. It won't be hard to do, since I'm usually the only one txting with the exception of today. It's hard to say keep the faith when you feel ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 8 June 2010: Update: Well I spoke to her two days ago, and she told me that she was depressed and almost didn’t go to work. I asked her if she wanted to talk about it and she said that she did not really want to talk to anyone (we were texting). I waited a few ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 7 June 2010: Sweetiebabes, thanks for the comment and I will fight hard until the end and give everything that I have to try and make things right. I just hope her hearts is not as harden as she makes it seem.... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 6 June 2010: I just had a talk with my wife, and read to her the long seven page heartfelt letter. She told me that it meant a lot that I wrote it. She told me that the reason that she lost her love for me was because I worked all the time, and did not seem to ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 5 June 2010: Thanks to you all for the quick responses and info.
- To sweetiebabes: Thanks for the idea about the 40-60 days leave. The issue with that is that I don't think she wants me to come over? She has been there working for about two months and I co... (read in full...)
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