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Sweetie Pie, posted over a year ago

Heya dearcupid!This is sweetie pie here and i have a question about your site.When or what new things are you going to put on the site?Also what can you do with the friends?I also wanted to say THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR CREATING THIS SITE!!!!!!!! Love ya! Sweetie Pie

Posted on 31 March 2006 @ 21:56 (London time) - permalink
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DearCupid, posted over a year ago

Hi SP I'd keep an eye out for an experimental run of private messaging soon! As for the "friends" if you just keep on adding people you like it will all come clear in the future (I hope) Andrew

Posted on 1 April 2006 @ 1:3 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

This is for the moderators, I have noticed many people are posting about rapes.

I wanted to bring it to your attension, Many rape victoms have a fear of telling their parents or autorities because they have a fear of not being believed. In the event we may be the very first place a rape victom shares their secret, should there be posts alloud to accuse the victom of lies? If they were accused of lieing the first time they shared their secret, would they get up the courage to do something about the rape? if their fear is not being believed.

Not that I agree or disagree with the posters, but for the questioner's sake could accusations toward rape victoms not be posted in case it is a real rape, in which case we should be of help and advise not of negative accusations, right?

As a parent, I would hope that if my own child was asking for help in this type of situation I would sure hope that whomever they went to first helped to advise them in the right direction and not belittle them or accuse them of anything.

Posted on 2 November 2008 @ 23:49 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

There are certain behaviours and word usage and attitude that come across from rape/incest victims.

They do not like to go into detail. They do not use their experience to create a 'mood'.

Story telling elements do in fact, give most Aunts and Uncles, who have experience reading thousands of posts...there is a pattern, human behaviour has a pattern.

Most of these posts, Aunts and Uncles are still willing to give weblinks and hotline numbers for the rape victim.

From personal experience, you downplay, you keep the details minimal, and you say help, I don't like it, I'm scared, I'm confused, I need help.

I, myself, read over so many of these posts, and there is an indeed a pattern, consistancy.

Also, after reading thousands of posts, you develop a sense of who the jokers are, the ones that come on here and waste time, the ones who use this site as a means to get off, to those who seek help.

The victims of rape/incest, are very sincere, genuine, and you can sense the truth of their words.

Overall, there is a responsibility present. Most do give information regarding what to do, where to go, how to seek help, and are very supportive.

You choose to agree, or disagree.

In the end, it is up to the moderators and responders of what will be said.

Posters are allowed to call down women, stalk Moderators, Aunts and Uncles, and taunt them, abuse them, you name it.

It's all apart of DC.

You have to roll with it.

That's the constant message I get. I have to deal with it on my own, with little support, save those Aunts and Uncles who offer an encouraging word.

I do thank you for this post, it is something we can be more aware of.

Thanks.

Posted on 2 November 2008 @ 23:59 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

Thank you for your reply,

The thing that kind of conserned me was that in the questions I did read that there were over half the answers/posts in each one suggesting the person was making it up.

That's all and I was just worried how the questioner was percieving this.

Posted on 3 November 2008 @ 0:41 (London time) - permalink
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