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beenthere, posted over a year ago

Hi. I noticed no one had posted here so thought I'd start off. My partner and I got together in summer 2003, he was really into me and everything and asked me to marry him after only a couple of weeks. He was so happy that he didn't even care that his footie team was losing! We got the engagement rings Boxing Day that year then we had a party 6 months later. I thought he really wanted to get married but now we have been together almost 3 years and since the party, there has been no indication of him actually wanting to marry me! Still, 3 years isn't very long, my sister got engaged when she was 18, she's still engaged to him... she'll be 32 this year! Anyone else been engaged for a long time? Any plans of actually getting married? Does being engaged really mean anything?

Posted on 31 March 2006 @ 0:17 (London time) - permalink
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lisa_01lisa_01, posted over a year ago

hi, iv been with my man for over 2 years and we are not intrested in getting engaged yet or anything like that, have you spoken to your partner about this? maybe there is a reason for such a long wait , maybe money is a issue or maybe he just does not feel ready to make that type of commitment

Posted on 31 March 2006 @ 0:26 (London time) - permalink
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beenthere, posted over a year ago

Well yes, money is a big issue. I'm not too fussed about getting married myself. It just seems weird that there appear to be loads of people getting engaged and staying engaged instead of actually getting married. As for my sister, she did want to get married and money isn't too much of a problem for them but now they've been together for so long, I think they're just used to it! Their son doesn't want them to get married(he's 13)because a couple of his friends parents were really happy together and then got married and it all went downhil, now they're divorced!

Posted on 31 March 2006 @ 19:50 (London time) - permalink
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bridetobebridetobe, posted over a year ago

I have been with my fella for 6 and half years. We have been engaged for 2 and half and plan to get married next May. Yes money is a big issue and once you start planning your wedding its a big enough strain on any relationship. How do you think i found my way on to this website!!!

If you are not bothered about getting married just yet live in the moment, you are only young once!!

Posted on 9 May 2006 @ 18:34 (London time) - permalink
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confusedbunnyconfusedbunny, posted over a year ago

I got engaged when i was 16,Im now 19 and planning to get marrid at 21. so that will (SHOULD) be march '08, but everytime i mention saving for the wedding, or looking to see whats available abroad, he jus shrugs his shoulders and bury's his head back down in his computer. dont think engagment means a thing. Personally i think the only reason my fella's put this ring on my finger is to claim me as his. Until the papers are signed, engament means nothing girls.

Posted on 30 May 2006 @ 20:38 (London time) - permalink
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, posted over a year ago

May I add that even if you're married, marriage means very little in today's common society. Seems like the rare handful are indeed very rare, and best of everything to them hopefully. As for the rest of the population, getting engaged at such an early age is most likely by impulse - something like the 'heat of the moment' type of emotions making people do things that they may not follow through in the long run.

Heck, I've had similar feelings with all my past relationships at one time. Fortunately, I can keep my emotions for that sort of thing in check.

Posted on 30 May 2006 @ 21:39 (London time) - permalink
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bassface73, posted over a year ago

I have been engaged for a very short time, I plan on getting married before the year is up. I met my fiance only about 6 months ago. I have a very different mindset. There is more info about this stuff at this a href='http://www.abazias.com/faqs/faqs.asp'site/a. It is very informative and can help you when the time is right.

Posted on 5 September 2007 @ 17:50 (London time) - permalink
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amandalee, posted over a year ago

yeah you right. Marriage is beginning to be very meaning less. People don't seem to be taking this serious anymore and its really getting to me. The divorce rate it really increasing! its unbelievable!

Anyways communication is the best policy. Find out how your partners feel about marriage than take it from there!

Posted on 3 October 2007 @ 11:36 (London time) - permalink
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rcnrcn, posted over a year ago

I believe Marriage can be very meaningful. It can be meaningful to the two lucky individuals who enter into it. It's only as meaningful as the people who are joined view it.

There is too much divorce. It increased quite a bit when "no fault" divorce was introduced more. Now people don't have to have any reason to end it. It's become the easiest way to escape problems of the marriage. The problem is, once divorce usually the same actions happen to end the next one as well.

Posted on 4 October 2007 @ 4:0 (London time) - permalink
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froginabog, posted over a year ago

I've been dating my boyfriend since 2003. In the beginning we talked about marriage in general and now we never talk about it, except for once a year when I bring it up. He just stays silent and pretends he doesn't understand what i'm talking about. I'm about 8 years older than him and in these past five years I've seen my friends get married, give birth, buy houses, some get divorced, but the main thing is something is happening in their relationship. I'm starting to feel stuck in some weird relationship purgatory. I love my boyfriend, but am slowly starting to understand that although he cares about me he is probably never going to get around to asking me to marry him and I don't feel comfortable asking him.

Posted on 1 March 2008 @ 11:15 (London time) - permalink
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MichelleB, posted over a year ago

hmmmm...I would ask him directly...maybe he isn't ready yet...but ask ...thats the best thing to do

Posted on 17 October 2008 @ 21:29 (London time) - permalink
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daisydianedaisydiane, posted over a year ago

you did several things wrong! The first is,you accepted his proposal after only knowing the guy for 2 weeks! Nothing says EASY faster than that except SEX too soon! I wouldn't even have sex without a commitment first & to know someone takes time! Don't worry about this guy,YOU ARE NOT HIS DREAM GIRL,but if you want marriage one day don't jump in so fast,slow down or you will end up in the same boat or worse! He knows you don't love or respect yourself,you've proven this to him & you won't change his mind no matter what you say or do now! sorry but this is the truth!!! Why do women do these things to themselves? You knew him 2 weeks & then said yes?I bet you said yes to sex long before the 2 weeks didn't you? OMG! Can you see what everyone else can clearly see in this picture?

Posted on 31 January 2010 @ 7:32 (London time) - permalink
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daisydianedaisydiane, posted over a year ago

He isn't felling it! A man that wants you can't get to the alter fast enough!!! Learn to love yourself and leave this user alone.He lost interest when you became to easy to get,and the challenge & excitement are gone.

Knowing how fast a couple can become bored with one another is all the more reason to respect yourself and not use sex as glue to bond you to someone because the glue is only so strong which isn't strong at all.SEX is common place & it's not precious anymore even though it should be.If you get horney do what the classy women do & buy a Vibrator,ect.... instead of having a guy whose not that into you! Better a battery operated dildo than a cold hearted man who thinks your his little puppy dog slave girl or whatever he's using you for.When a man wants you,HE SHOWS IT!

Posted on 31 January 2010 @ 7:38 (London time) - permalink
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daisydianedaisydiane, posted over a year ago

Besides,exploring your body alone & by yourself is a great thing.You learn to love & appreciate yourself as well as your body & you won't look at your flaws in such a negative way anymore.Learn to pleasure yourself & practice relaxing then when you do meet someone,date awhile and get a commitment & know one another well,SEX with be fantastic! You'll be glad you did the work & also get into yoga!!!

Posted on 31 January 2010 @ 7:42 (London time) - permalink
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daisydianedaisydiane, posted over a year ago

When males as well as females begin to see SEX as a sacred bond between a male & a female,we will see marriage as sacred to.Until then,why bother getting married if your idea's about SEX are so easy & fast? Nothing precious about used goods or two has beens whose graced more beds than a set of worn out sheets!!!

Posted on 31 January 2010 @ 7:44 (London time) - permalink
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daisydianedaisydiane, posted over a year ago

People have SEX and abuse sex as if they have every right to have sex whenever they want & how they want with who they want so why would they ever place value on marriage? People just give themselves away because they have NO SELF RESPECT & SELF CONTROL!!!

Posted on 31 January 2010 @ 7:46 (London time) - permalink
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daisydianedaisydiane, posted over a year ago

People have SEX and abuse sex as if they have every right to have sex whenever they want & how they want with who they want so why would they ever place value on marriage? People just give themselves away because they have NO SELF RESPECT & SELF CONTROL!!!

Posted on 31 January 2010 @ 7:46 (London time) - permalink
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