Bored of Life

TheDoctor, posted over a year ago

My wife and I seperated 6 weeks ago and boy it seems like a lifetime ago!Anyway,with the intial her moving out of the flat and then me moving into a new flat which has kept me very busy.Now I find myself in the humdrum life of work and coming home,sleep then back to work the next day.Days off,sleep then back to work.Get my drift?Its all very mundane stuff.Ive got nothing to look forward now my life has been turned upside down.I enjoy my "freedom" but thats not enough.I miss my ex terribly and everyday I think of her.We've not been in touch since.I deleted her number from my mobile.I guess I feel lonely and down.What have other people done to "lift" themselves?

Posted on 30 August 2008 @ 20:53 (London time) - permalink
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pepper27, posted over a year ago

Hi love this is the difficult time, You are so used to a routine that involves your partner that life seems to hold nothing but work in my case children and sleep..You say you miss your ex have you two spoken fully about this breakup is there a possibility that you could sort your differences out hun? I no for you to breakup in the very fist place you both must have felt it the only way, Its only time that gives us plenty of things to think back over..I have been in abusive relationships so I left for those reasons. And the last one was because my husband was unfaithfull I really wasnt in the mood to deal with it after what I had been through...I came through the humbrum part of life first I couldnt go out due to injury but as I got better I forced myself to go out and get back into the swing of things even when tired I pushed myself, Most of that early tired feeling was depression so I felt it of utmost importance to do something..Anything just to break the routine of the same crap everyday. My friends were great they pulled me through but my children were the ones that really got me through it all love as they are older they wouldnt take a no to getting out the house and thats really important getting out that flat..Pushing yourself to do something different, I hope this helps love and I hope things get better for you very soon TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Posted on 2 September 2008 @ 9:34 (London time) - permalink
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LonelyButNotAlone, posted over a year ago

I'm still trying to find such answers myself.

It's only been 2 weeks since my girlfriend of a year and a half cheated on me and left me for another man.

What has been helping me is getting right back out into the dating scene. Forget waiting, just start talking to new people, meeting new people.

And assuming things are over between you two for good, just think of all the flaws she has. The physical or emotional problems, the things she wouldn't settle with you on in disputes, just take all the bad stuff and put it into the front of your mind. Keep it with you. Pull it out frequently. Talk about it with your friends and family.

I feel your pain... I can only imagine that in marriage, the pain is only that much worse. Hang in there...

Posted on 3 September 2008 @ 15:34 (London time) - permalink
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TheDoctor, posted over a year ago

Thank you for your support.Its interesting that with my case is that no one else was inlvolved either with me or her and there were no lies involved of any kind.If she had cheated I would have had an answer if I had lied about something I could understand why she left because of the trust being broken and would have an answer but I dont have any "real" answers to why she left me apart from being "fed up" which for me is not defintive enough.My only regret is not putting up a fight I guess in finding an answer but thats me all over.I just let her go without a fight.If I did maybe I would have real answers and put a closure on it.Should I meet up with her and have proper discussion about it?Trouble is I don't have her number any more and have no contact.She did'nt reply to my texts anyway.Its not knowing "why" thats eating away at me.

Posted on 4 September 2008 @ 23:34 (London time) - permalink
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LonelyButNotAlone, posted over a year ago

I don't know. If you can get a hold of her, I think you should definitely try and find out what she meant.

I kinda felt the same way at first. Upset that I didn't have any answers and I didn't understand why we were splitting up.

But then I ended up stumbling onto the truth... I caught her flirting with the guy on the phone in the middle of the night... saw her leave messages to the guy on her computer, "I love you." etc.

Do I feel any better now that I know why she left? Not at all... actually, it only made me feel worse.

I guess you gotta ask yourself, do you think you two can right things?

Posted on 4 September 2008 @ 23:51 (London time) - permalink
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