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writes:I made a doctor appoitment with a specialist at a very prestigous clinic for a chronic problem I have and I asked my husband that he please not tell anyone that I was going because I did not want any questions about it. I feel it is up to me to disclose any medical information about myself to who I want to. Well...I find out that after we went there that he told his relatives and friends all about it. Then of course what I had not wanted..did happen. His relatives and friends all asked what I found out. I feel extremely betrayed by this, as I asked my husband to not tell anyone that we were going and he appartently told everyone. I, of course, was extremely mad at him and he didn't even apologize. I feel that I am not able to tell him anything now, no matter what it is. I don't think he realizes just how big of an issue this is to me. How can I make him realize that what happens and said between a husband and wife should remain confidential....especially if asked????? Reply to this Question
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 If he's over 50 and hasn't figured it out yet, it isn't going to happen. The fact that he hasn't even apologised just reinforces that, on this issue, he's an idiot. All you can do is guide yourself accordingly.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (1 June 2010):
 Does he have an ultra-close family? Yeah, he blew it when he disclosed what you wanted to be just between you. Is this the first time he's done that to you?
I guess the only thing I can say is - don't tell him what you don't want to get around.
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