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writes: Hey, My Boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and I feel I am putting in all the effort. Last semester I was always the one going up to see him, cos he didnt want to come home, and that was fine. However now I can't go up there this semester (working weekends only atm). I won't see him for 6 weeks cos he's too busy to come to see me!It's like he thinks he's the only one in uni, with a job and a life, and it's getting me down. Am I being unfair being upset by this? It's making me doubt his feelings for me. Is it his way of letting me know he doesn't want to be with me anymore?Any advice welcome!Cheers xx
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reader, Angeldust17 +, writes (20 May 2006):
Angeldust17 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey all,
Thanks for the advice. Most appreciated. I shall let you know how it all ends up.
Thanks all xx
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reader, StarNews +, writes (20 May 2006):
 It seems you know what you want and need out of the relationship.
Tell him he is neglecting you, and how it makes you feel. His actions, not his words, will be the deciding factor in regards to whether you choose to remain in the relationship or not. Either way, you will feel better having expressed your thoughts to him, instead of keeping it inside. How you feel is important, and if he really cares, he will compromise with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2006): I think you should have a serious talk with him. My ex boyfriend and I have just split up because he wouldn't make an effort to see me, and i was putting all the effort in, so i got fed up.
I know it's not easy when your in a long distance relationship, but he should still make the effort to call/email/ you at least! It's not hard for him to do that, even if you can't see eachother, it's something.
If he dosen't even do that, i would re-think your relationship with him, because any guy that really cares about you, WILL indeed make the effort to get in contact with you and see you.
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reader, kyleishott94 +, writes (20 May 2006):
does he talk to you on the phone atleast because if he dosen't then definatly dump him or whatever you want too do but do it fast or he might do it on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2006): No, you're right. I think you can either A) call and talk to him about your feelings and unfairness, and/or B) don't even call him, email, or anything and see if he makes an effort to try to see you.
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