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When should I make my relationship public?

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Question - (12 May 2019) 2 Answers - (Newest, 13 May 2019)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi,

Asking for some advice not to hurt anyone’s feelings.

I’ve been single two years and started dating again around a year ago, a lovely lovely guy who I unfortunately just wasn’t attracted to. We got on amazingly and maybe that’s why it continued for so long (10 months). We called each other ‘pal’ and ‘mate’- which says it all really.

I called it off with him on the 7th April to be precise, he was heart broken as he did have full feelings for me but he said he saw it coming. We parted as friends.

I decided to spend some time focusing on myself and stop dating, I booked a few weekends away with the girls and promised myself no more dates for a little while.

Two weeks after ending things with that guy I walked into a business meeting to be greeted by the most beautiful man I have ever seen. He asked me out for a drink after the day which I declined, then contacted me via social media twice trying to arrange date. I went on a date with him and totally hit it off, we’ve now been on 9 dates and have a weekend away planned for a months time.

I’ve kept everything quiet and not really told anybody out of fear for the guy I was dating finding out and hurting him.

When do you think it would be acceptable to make it known I was dating somebody else?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (13 May 2019):

Honeypie agony auntI agree, whenever YOU are ready to tell the World.

If you think this could HURT the ex, maybe you need to take him off your social media. Or maybe knowing that you have moved on will help HIM move on.

You can live your life walking on eggshells because a past relationship didn't really work out.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom + , writes (13 May 2019):

N91 agony auntWhenever you like.

Things didn’t work out with your ex, it’s not your job to worry about his feelings. I’m sure he will be able to deal with it and in some cases things like this can actually help others to move on as it’s a form of closure knowing there’s no going back.

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