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writes:Just wondering how people view it. Doesn't matter whether your old, young, for or against it :) I myself have mixed opinions on it. Do you think people should be in relationships at the age of 15? I have been in a so called "relationship" and it only lasted two months, but if it wasn't love that I was feeling then what was it? Deep infatuation? You could always go with the whole "Your hormones are running crazy!" scientific explanation, are you can go with the classic "Teenagers are too naive and unexperienced to know what real love is." So when do we start to learn what "real love" is? We love our families, right? Our friends, our pets. So yeah, interested to hear other's views :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010): Attraction (also called infatuation) is fake love, chemical-based, and temporary.
Real romantic love starts when the dust has settled and attraction has started to die out. If two people stay together after attraction has faded, they found true love.
Choose your soul mate carefully, based on personality rather than looks. But just do not hurry yet; it would not be a bad idea to get your high school diploma first.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (1 September 2010):
 Everyone is different. There's no set age barrier that suddenly, when crossed, enables you to fall in love. I think teenagers being in relationships with other teenagers is just fine. It's when they get involved with people in their 20's (or even older) when things get slightly questionable.
I think some teenagers usually move a bit fast in relationships, you know the sort - having been together a week they tell anyone who will listen how in love they are, only to break up a week later. Relationships and sex are two different things however, I think teenagers can date and be in relationships, that's fine. But under-age sex is inexcusable and to me just shows a lack of restraint. Even if you love him, you should wait until you're of age and 100% sure. The amount of teenage pregnancies in Britain is shocking. So many young people get pregnant, have children and then forfeit their dreams and potential. Relationships, yes fine. It's a part of growing up, under-age or ill-thought out sex, no. But that's just my opinion.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (1 September 2010):
 There is only one romance. You can't categorize a feeling because, face it, people feel different things in different ways. What is sad for one person might make someone else laugh, what sparks joy in one person might anger someone else, I've seen this happen, don't doubt the possibilities.
Love is a powerful emotion. It is possible to love at any age, how to DEAL with it requires some level of readiness and experience but not the loving itself. I'm not sure if I'm saying that correctly.
There is no right or wrong age for love. Sex is a different matter...
If you feel a desire for someone that surpasses the physical attraction, then it's right for you to be with him.
I don't think teenagers "are too naive and unexperienced to know what real love is." Because love itself FORCES everyone to become naive. It forces your hand through choices, good or bad. There are different aspects of love that require experience but that doesn't matter when you feel it because, when you do, you'll know what you want and you'll know how to get it, you won't care what others think. Love is an instinct.
I hope that helps.
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