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writes: My boyfriend never listens to anybody but himself! and he is not interested in doing anything for me unless it is in his interest as well!I used to go out of my way for him, not anymore. Every time I talk to him about it, he doesn't want to row, but then wonders why I don't want to talk to him. It ends up in a viscious circle, and it is driving me to depression, I can't handle it, but I don't want to lose him! What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2005): I am also on the same boat..except I'm a newly wed. It actually feels worse now...you feel trapped, like maybe you made a bad decision and undoing it now would be so difficult.
My suggestion/advice to you is that you need to be sure that you are with someone that respects you and knows you. To know you, he has to listen. Most men don't...but if you're patient enough, you'll find someone that is your best friend...he'll listen. I look back on my relationship and I always had doubts...he didn't listen either, he made me sad....wasn't interested in how I felt. When I decided to marry, a voice in the back of my head said - you're gonna tell yourself.."I told you so"...and here I am..only 7 months later...I told you so....
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2005): Honestly I am in the same boat. My boyfriend and I have been together for a while know and he doesn't listen to a word I say some times. Unfortunatly this has made my feelings for him less then they where before. I think the thing to do is talk to him and be completely honest with him about how it makes you feel. Tell him that those things have to change because your tired of being the only one putting any effort into the relationship. If he is not really willing to make the effort for you then consider if you think you deserve being unhappy. I really hope things work out for you!
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